My niece has spent her ENTIRE life trying to make her mom like her. Now that she is married and pregnant it has gotten so much worse. My niece is totally stressed and exhausted at trying to keep her mom calm and happy. I just want her to enjoy this very special pregnancy, ( she was told she would never have a baby because of health issues) and her mom seems to be jealous of all the attention she is getting. Niece has done EVERYTHING for mom trying to keep her happy but it just dosen't last. She wants me to advise her and I just can't! My sister has always been like this and I had to walk away from her insanity years ago. I JUST can not tell a child to walk away from their parent. Please advise, I am afraid this time it is going to cause problems with the pregnancy.
2006-09-26 09:10:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You and your niece are in the endless vicious circle of beating a dead horse! You are so conditioned into believing that just because someone is family you owe them respect, consideration and obedience!
She has always been this way! Do you think all the logic, coaxing, coercion, and patience in the world is going to make her change? She drove you to walk away from the insanity and yet you cannot advise your niece to get as far away from this insensitive woman?!
Your niece's health is in danger! Do you want her and possibly the baby to suffer the consequences of not being able to walk away from an abusive relationship just for the sake of 'doing the right thing' !? Are you going to let this happen knowing you could have stopped it?
There is no reason any of you should subject yourselves to this type of treatment and all the collateral damage it can cause! Your sister has decided, for whatever reasons, to act this way. It has nothing to do with any of you!
If you truly care for your niece, get her away from this woman. If you have any love for your sister, kindly suggest she seek professional counseling and or therapy. Her state of mind and heart is not a healthy one!
I wish you both the best!
2006-09-26 09:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This poor girl needs some peace. If not for herself, at least for the baby. We all want our mothers to be happy with us and what we do, but some mother's are never satisfied. IT'S NOT YOUR NEICE'S ISSUE ANYMORE. She's married, and starting a family of her own. She needs to focus on that. If her mother is your sister, you need to step in and let her know she's on the verge of losing her daughter and beautiful grandchild and she needs stop being so incredibly selfish. Tell your neice to put her feet up and let her husband take care of her for a minute, take the phone off the hook and just enjoy being pregnant. Focusing on a childish mother isn't gonna do her or the baby any good.
Sometimes we have to be tough even if we don't want to. Your neice needs to be tough. Tell her I said congratulations, by the way! Hope this helps!
2006-09-26 09:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by dct1218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer. It may be it your niece's best interest to put some distance between herself and her mother. Your niece is not responsible for her mom. They are both adults and your niece is now responsible for her child. That has to come before all else. It isn't easy, but if there is a choice to make, then it is pretty easy to see what that choice is.
2006-09-26 09:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by petlover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to read about your niece's situation. It certainly cant be easy for her especially with her hormones as they are, or for you being stuck in the middle.
Personally, and I know it would be hard,but I would tell your niece to walk away. Hopefully her mum will see the damage she has done to their relationship especially after her grandchild is born. Just be there for your niece (sounds as if you are anyway). She will need all the love and support she can get.
good luck to you both and to your niece on the forthcoming event.
2006-09-26 09:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by Snuffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mom kindly to renounce screaming at you to wake you up. additionally attempt to set your alarm clock to wake you sometime earlier Fajr ends, yet not whilst it starts good away only in case you won't be in a position to doze off. you will could think of of a time table you are able to persist with. Or, for sure, you are able to ask your mom to softly wake you up at a definite time. What I do if I wanna awaken at a definite time or doze off immediately is I do only dua and it works. I even have confidence there's a hadeeth that in case you do tasbeeh or dhikr of any style, shaitan makes you doze off, and that i come across it works as quickly as I do it essentially. remember, in spite of the indisputable fact that, you may pray.
2016-10-01 09:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋