I am planning on having a tubal ligation (getting my tubes tied) after my second child is born in November. I was totally gung-ho on the idea but I feel like people keep telling me to have my husband get a vasectomy. What are your personal experiences with this? Please, serious answers only, this is a huge part of my future. (I am happy with having only two kids, but there is always that "what-if" factor... plus, both pregnancies have been pretty tough physically for me. I am Christian, but I have found no reason to not get this procedure done according to the Bible.) I welcome any horror stories as well as any good stories!!!
2006-09-26 09:09:11 · 8 answers · asked by Hurray for the ANGELS! 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I just had my tubed tied 2 months ago.
I have 3 boys and was pregnant with my 4th, a girl. I have horrible pregnancies, and major health problems. My husband and I decided that we should tie my tubes, or he should get fixed. Well it turns out that my husband is a whimp. All he did was whine and complain about how much it was going to hurt. So I decided that I would take one for the team.
Shortly after I gave birth to my little girl they took me into the operation room. Right up until the minute they came and got me I was having second thoughts. I was crying, had doubts, I too experienced the whole "What if?..." Yet I knew in my heart of hearts that this was the best thing to do.
It's been 2 months, and things are better with how I feel about it. I occasionally still have the "What if's?" but then I look at my kids and I'm blessed. I can now start the next phase of my life which is to raise great, well rounded kids. My sister in laws however have just started the phase in their lives of having kids. So I sometimes wonder what I'm going to feel when they find out that they are pregnant, and their little baby arrives. I guess I'll have to cross that bridge when it comes.
Yet again, I turn to my heart of hearts and realize that maybe I feel this way because it's a part of being a women. You have the blessing and ability to bring a life into this world, and now that has been taken away from me, yet by my own choice. It's been emotional at times, OK at times, yet in the end I feel it was the right thing to do, for me.
For some women, it's no big deal. And that's OK, and great for them. It just wasn't that way for me.
Just find that peace within your heart. And you'll know what to do.
I'll be thinking of you.
2006-09-26 09:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by jt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very personal decision for you. You'll find the answer in you!
All you have to understand that it IS PERMANENT!! You must be absolutely POSITIVE that you will NEVER EVER want to have another child, no matter what.
Anyone who has told you it could be reversed did not mention the fact that the procedure costs around $30,000 and there is no insurance that will pay for it. Besides there less than a 50% chance of success of reversing it. The tubes aren't "tied", they are cut, and in some cases the cut ends seared.
People who tell you your husband should do it probably are considering the fact that a vasectomy is an outpatient procedure while a tubal ligation is an in-patient surgery. But you'll already be in the hospital for the delivery of your child.
As I said, it's a very personal decision. I am sure you will do what you believe is best, you have the answer inside of you, you just have to find it!!
2006-09-26 09:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by seaelen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HAD MY TUBES CUT AND BURNT 10 YRS AGO I HAVE NO REGRETS I HAVE 3 BEAUTIFUL HEALTHY CHILDREN AND NOW I AM A GRANDMA I SAY IF YOUR NOT CONSIDERING MORE KIDS THEN GO FOR IT BUT YOU GOT TO MAKE SURE THIS IS WHAT YOU TRUELY WANT DEPENDING ON THE PROCEDURE SOME OF THEM ARE NOT REVERSEABLE......THE ONLY HORROR PART I CAN OFFER IS WHEN THE GAS THAT THEY USE (TO PUSH YOUR ORGANS ASIDE SO THEY CAN SEE) BEGINS TO LEAVE THE BODY IT GOES OUT THRU YOUR SHOULDERS IT HURTS IT FEELS LIKE SOMEONE IS STABBING YOU IN THE SHOULDER WITH ICE PICKS......THE INCISION ------ THAT LONG..RIGHT ABOVE THE BELLY BUTTON NOT NOTICEABLE AT ALL....GOOD LUCK IN THE DECISION YOU MAKE
2006-09-26 09:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by Brenda H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was a piece of cake for me. I had it done on a Thursday and was back to work on Monday. No pain and I do not regret it. I too had very horrible pregnancies. Very glad I did it. My husband was a chicken and would not get anything snipped or even consider it. Go for it if you are done with having kids. For me it was easy and pain free.
2006-09-26 09:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by dr's mom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had my tubes tied after my 2nd child. I don't regret having it done although it made me cramp worse when I would have my periods. I eventually ended up having to have a hysterectomy. I really don't regret having that done.
2006-09-26 09:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by countrymom2 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
BEST BEST BEST thing I have ever done. It was easy, quick and virtually painless, not even one stitch! I never wanted children so I had it done when I was twenty three (ten years ago) and have NEVER regretted it! I was out to dinner the very night I had it done!
2006-09-26 09:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont regret mine at all! But I have to admit, its only been 10 months.... I still sweat it every month waiting to see if I start my period!
I guess itll take awhile before I feel 'safe'.
2006-09-26 09:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by lindsay74 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have them untied in the future, don't have them burned
it will be almost impossible to reconnect, very slim to none.
2006-09-26 09:19:34 · answer #8 · answered by 520 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋