How do you get your man off the dang internet poker and into a good love life....I've tried almost EVERYTHING!

Question

Every night my fiance says he is not getting on the internet poker/casino but he does anyways and spends all dang night on there until most of the time I just go on to bed. I try to get him "interested" with no luck and even have tried just casually talking to him about it but so far nothing is working. I have even told him I wish he was a computer so he would pay some attention to me but that didn't work either. He has apologized and "swore" he was going to do more with me but night after night I find myself alone and staring at the wall.......HELP!!

Answer 1

There is a song by Kate Bush called 'Babooshka', about a woman who was worried that her husband was unfaithful. So she invented an alter-ego called Babooshka and sent him love letters in the assumed name.

Perhaps in this day and age, technology being what it is, you could turn his computer addiction against him. Open a new email account and send him a salutation from an assumed name. Say you saw him in some work capacity, have been obsessed ever since and start an illicit email exchange. Don't reveal that it's you until he has got interested enough to potentially compromise himself.

This might appeal to both of you, turning his technology to your favour. If this doesn't work, I'd say you are a PC widow and should reconsider your agreement to marry this guy. He needs to realise that you are worth more to him than his addiction.

Answer 2

You humans have it all messed up! Men are not thinking sex at night...For some reason women think of it as the way to celebrate the end of the day or something like that!!!!! Men wake up with an erection...If you want some lovin's attack him in his sleep first thing in the morning...or meet him for an early lunch for a quickie...while his hormones are still working and not spent from the rigors of his job., and or before he relieves him self-by himself! At the end of the work day...go get some exercise, or go to bed early with a good book. On a night when you are free the next day...that is when you might want to spend some time together...plan ahead...but still the sex part...is the same...usually men like it early in the morning or early in the day...sometimes they may be ready for it later but not usually! Enjoy your spouse!
Quit thinking like the other losers out there and understand one an others natural instincts...and you will succeed...At least you have an instruction manual to marriage! The Word of God!

Answer 3

I myself am into the online poker, but he seems to be an extremist. Basically, there's nothing you can do. I would break up with him, if my girlfriend broke up w/ me bc of my online poker, it would make me realize how big a pathetic loser I am.

Women should come first, especially before poker.

He's addicted and lost. There's nothing you can do, I promise. Just move on and break-up right now.

Listen to me, I am a online poker-player (but not as extreme as you described), sometimes, I wish I could stop. I've turned down sex several times due to damn tournaments.

Answer 4

He has a internet gambling addiction problem and I completly agree with the previous answeerer. Nagging won't help and he won't recognize that he has a problem.

Find a real man that finds you more atractive than the computer. You deserve his attention if you are in a relationship. Don't compromise for less. Get out now, do it for yourself. He will see how much of a loser he is when he loses you.

Good luck

Answer 5

Dress up like a card (with nothing underneath) and lay across the table that you have set up for poker and then see what happens. That might at least capture his attention. You could put cards in special places and he will have to go there to get a card. Make it exciting for him. And also have you tried strip poker.

Answer 6

Get butt naked, walk in the room, straddle him and ask,

"Hard, cold plastic and metal or soft, warm and wet flesh? Choose now and choose wisely" If he even so much as puts his hand on the mouse to save or close what he's doing, you have your answer.

I know if a woman was naked and straddle me with a question like that, we'd be gettin' busy in a heartbeat and that computer would be on the curb (once we were done).

Not a great situation you're in. Good luck!

Answer 7

Your boyfriend suffers from problem gambling syndrome. Problem gambling is an urge or addiction to gamble despite harmful negative consequences or a desire to stop. Problem gambling often is defined by whether harm is experienced by the gambler or others, rather than by the gambler's behavior.
Depending on the stage of the problem different treatment may be required. Try to contact gamblers anonymous an organization dedicated to help victims of gambling and their families.

Answer 8

And you have not presented him with an ultimatum, why" And you are still there why? and you don't REALLY think this is going to change do you?? Computer stuff -- poker, porn, games, etc. are an addiction, and sweetie, they just don't change...and it just doesn't go away..... I'd rather a guy smoked pot...

Answer 9

sounds like hes addicted!! get rid of computer!! if that doesnt work, then move on, you cant spend the rest of your life this and if he wont give it up or go to gamblers annonamous, then hes not ready for a real, mature relationship. if you stay with him or marry him your in for alot of heart ache and suffering, its not worth it!!!!!!!!!! your wasting your life, move on. good luck!

Answer 10

Pull the plug.

(Darn the luck, my wife isn't interested so I go to the internet to pass time and there's some idiot whose wife is all but begging him.)