I have a 7yrs old son?

Question

my husband always screams at our son & kicks him out of the room when he comes in, he never plays with him, my husbands family always screams at him when they see him, he never takes him anywhere. but with our daughter its a whole different thing! he adores that little girl! does that mean he doesnt love our son? I feel that he hates him every time he sees him.

Answer 1

I would say that based on your husband's family's handling of your son, your husband was probably treated the same way as a child. Because of this, he transfers his anger about it to your son. It's not that he doesn't love him...it's that he doesn't love himself and your son is a reflection of him. But because your other child is female, he can give her his affection without feeling conflicted. Good Luck in fixing it.

Answer 2

your husband is acting toward your son the way his father acted toward him. Your husband doesnt know what to do so he does what he knows, which in your case is yelling and screaming. Talk to you husband and let him know that a father is not suppose to treat his child like that and that both children should get the equal amount of love and attention from their parents. Don't allow his family to yell at your son. I'm sure you don't want your son around so much negative energy. If your son should do something wrong tell the other family members to go and tell you and that you would take care of it. Do not give them the right to treat your son like that. Talk to your husband and try to make him understand that he is his son and no matter how much he screams or kicks him out of the room that will never change. Your son will only grow to hate and resent his father and as a mother you probably do not want that. Your husband is playing in to the stereotypical " daddy's lil girl/ or princess" dont let him do that, your daughter will on grow to get everything she wants from her father and you will wont get any say so. Talk to your husband and let him know how your feeling and bring your son in to the conversation and ask your son how he feels when daddy screams at him. I'm pretty sure your husband will open up....good luck.
On more thing did you have your son when you were both young? A reason why you feel your husband hates your son is because in a way your husband feels your son took away his life and fun and gave him responsiblity, responsibilty he wasnt ready for.

Answer 3

Is the boy his biological son? Was he born before you where married...or a reason you did get married? Sometimes men hold these "commitment makers" as evil. I've seen it many times. You need to get out of this relationship...NOW! Your son is YOUR BLOOD. Your husband is just another abusive man...no relationship to you.

Also, this is going to sound terrible, and I'm sorry if it offends you but I have seen a situation EXACTLY like this... Unfortunately the father was sexually molesting the girl child, (and treated her like a little princess/play toy)and made the boy child fear him because the boy had witnessed the sexual abuse between his little sister and his father. It was a control thing to keep the boy from telling (and in great fear of him). The signs are there. Don't look the other way.

Answer 4

Is your son, his son , or is your son another mans son ?? If your husband is not the Father of your boy, then he needs to be straightened out right now. Your Husbands family needs to be straightened out too. Don't let this happen. How sad. Poor kid, he will remember that forever. It is damaging his self esteem. Don't let it continue and your husbands family , better stop. You need to tell them that. And if the boy is a step child, then it is terrible. It is up to you to get it all resovled. POOR KID !

Answer 5

Whoah! That is some serious issues! Have you spoken to your husband about this? I would say that this is totally unacceptable behavior. The fact that his family behaves this way also would seem to indicate some sort of dysfunction shared by the entire clan. You should seek family counseling before your son is scarred for life. Good luck!

Answer 6

Does your husband believe he is not the father of that child? Most fathers love their sons so there must be some strange reason like that why he does not. Or else, as someone pointed out, maybe he is just a jerk who you should try to get to counseling.

Answer 7

You need to go to a family counselor. This problem will not get better on its own. Your son should also be seen by a counselor as well. So much of what makes us who we are occurs in the first 6 years of our lives and it is quite possible that your son is bearing emotional scars that will affect him for the rest of his life. As his parent you are responsible for his health and well being which also includes emotional health. Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 8

yes and in the long run that will cause you and your so call husband LOTS!!!! of problems so even if your husband isn't showing your son love you better show him love kids have feelings to and he's at that age where he understands and knows that his daddy doesn't love him and as a daddy he should NEVER treat his child like that am telling you when he reaches teenage years your husband will wish he showed him some kind of love

Answer 9

You need some family counseling and you need to grow a backbone and not let anyone treat your child that way! Your husband sounds like a real a**. You need to do something before it permanetly damages your baby boy!

Answer 10

It means he learned poor relationship skills from his family and feels boys are inferior. He doesn't know how to relate to your son. Just talk to him about it - have an intelligent conversation. Then get them involved in each others' lives.