There's this friend that I've had for about ten years who basically told me to "go f%$^" myself. He told me that becuase I chose to move to get settled in the city where I'm going to college instead of visiting him and his wife (another friend of mine 10 years) that it was "the straw that broke the camel's back." He told be I "backburnered" him and that I was being selfish, that my move will get me nowhere and that I acted before thinking out all the consequenses. I moved here when I did becuase I had to so I'd have a place to live, so I could get a job, and get started in classes, he told me that becuase I'm not taking any classes this semister that makes my reasons all "BS". Now he isn't even speaking to me, I don't know why he reaccted this way, does anyone know what I did that was so horrible?
2006-09-26 08:38:13 · 16 answers · asked by moonie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think your friend is acting really childish, to me he seems to not want you having a greater life and achieveing what you want. He's the fault not you sweetie!
2006-09-26 08:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by Randisha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he called it, "the straw that broke the camel's back" it seems that he feels that you always treat him this way. And the over-reaction is just pent up anger from a person whose feelings are hurt and who doesn't feel that you are a considerate friend. Do you always stand this person up or "backburner" him as he says. Do you take a lot from the friendship, but you don't reciprocate? If this is the case, ignore the comments about your move being a bad decision, because they were said in anger. Try to not hold it against him and have a serious discussion because 10 year friendships are hard to come by. But, if you don't see where those feelings could possibly come from and you are a good friend, move on with your life. Make friends in your new city and good luck with your life.
2006-09-26 15:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by black mamba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based only upon what you say here you did absolutely nothing wrong. But what I see between the lines here is the possibility you were having an affair with him and now your not available.
Is that part of it? He is married and has not reason to not want you to do what ever you need to do. There has to be something more than what you are telling to cause him to be this way. it is totally illogical if not. Men do not act that way unless they have a good reason even if in their own mind.
Ask him!
2006-09-26 15:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, u decided 2 grow up and live your life , while they r miserable 2gther., the only thing u did wrong was devote 10 yrs of your life to fake friends so yeah go @#$% yourself thats what they want u 2 do then do it , just make sure u do it 2 there names,lol but seriously u did no wrong , they r upset that they dont have the ballls 2 leave the place where they grew up at they r dwellers people that live in the same town and marry there cousins,,lol good 4 u for not wanting 2 marry your cousin wilmer.
2006-09-26 15:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by q45dip 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend has a problem, not you. However, if he is a true friend, take the time to keep the friendship alive. I recently lost a friend and his wife, (he and I had been friends for 39 years). They went for the ultimate adios. They were killed in an auto accident. Cherish and enjoy your friendship. Try to make it work.
2006-09-26 15:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by ace42962 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea. It's too unreasonable to really make a judgement call on this. If this happened exactly as you say, then I think I'd be kind of relieved that this friendship has ended- he sounds a bit kooky.
2006-09-26 15:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he's an immature little sh*t.
You don't need friends like that, and if he treated you like that he probably wasn't a friend to begin with.
2006-09-26 15:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by jdimmitt22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he likes you and don't want you to leave.You haven't done anything wrong,approach him cautiously and ask him why is he getting on in this manner.
2006-09-26 15:49:13 · answer #8 · answered by buffyrichards 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dident do anything horrible, a true friend would be happy for you, and understanding, and wouldent want you to be homless, speke to him and ask him why he is mad, but if he is saying things like that then i wouldent concider him a friend
2006-09-26 15:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by npr6933 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let this asshole get to you, he has problems....big problems and the most I could do is send his wife a sympathy card.
2006-09-26 15:43:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋