something to make me feel better??heyy any advice?? was i a fool or his puppet who he could play around with??

Question

nothing had really happened...its just tht from the present situation i have assumed that the personi like doesnt like me back.... he is my very good friend... actually should i say he was my very good friend.. its like now that he is in a new country he is behaving different and not like the person who i saw be4....i told mailed him that ill miss him showin my feelings (he doesnt knw 100% that i like him... mebbe has the hint) but he did not reciprocate his feelingns nor did appreciate or tell me ya that he misses me too ..
thinking that how close we were be4 he left for london he shouldnt have behaved like this... i feel betrayed and now feel like he just was a TEMPORARY friend..he mite be yet ADJUSTING there but if he were a true friend he would have definitely mailed me once telling me about what he feels..even when he comes online i am the one who starts the conversation.... i was going to tell him my feelings...hes my good friend but lookin at the present condition what do i do??

Answer 1

First of all as one buddy said be honest to yourself

if u love him if u like hiom then why u sopress that feeling?? try to make him feel your feeling i mean try to express your feelings....just nmot by wordss by your behavious by your expressions etc....

second igf your are friend then u have to be like firend...i mean its not necessary in friendship that if u had send a messege or mail then its necessary that he/she will respond in the way u want him to...you feel bad because he doesnt respond in the way you want him to respond.....and when he will respond like you want ypu will be happy...anyways he has just gine there
he need to adjust there
he need to build his career
his work
his job
he nee dto get used to the life and lifestyle there
its not so easy
we can just speak of adjustments that are to be made to live there
but actually adjusting is much more harder
so dont just think anything
dont conclude so soon
and try to express your feelings and try to express your self
try to convey your feelings coz sometimes we think that he/she might have a clue aboout it but its not alays like that ghey always have a clue
like i always thought that my girl might have a clue of my love towards her
but she didnt had any clue
when i told her then only she knew
however keep in touch
try to express
and whoever say that long term relationships dont work then they are fools
are they just dont know how to make a relationship work
well u know i have a friend, girl, from last more then 6 years
i havenever even seen her
i hacve never even seen her picture or cam or anything
never even asked hr thet how does she look like but still we are friend
best friends
v talk daily
and sometimes when v dotn talk for 15-20 days we dont have ne problem i mean i just dont accuse her that she forgot me or i was just a tem,porary friend or like that
as its not always necessary that what u see is always true
we are best ever friend i cud make ever as when i m to say anything she know what i m goin to say and when shes goin to say anything i know whats shes goin to say
so we understand each other
we understand each other's situations
i had been through all the stages u r goin through right now
so please dont get desperate
dont worry
everything will be allright
and always be optimistic
and if u want any help or any suggestion plz dont ever hesitate to mail or messege me
i will b glad to help ya
my mail id is [e-mail]

Answer 2

Hi
I think u should forget about it all. Take a day off go to some nearby spa and next day spend time out shopping for some gorgeous outfit, And then enrol in some hobby centres. by the next wk u will even question as to whether ever you felt this down over some silly guy. Just remember he is nothing but a loser to lose out on you, coz u r the best.

Answer 3

Normally guys dont express their feelings to girls (specially to their close ones)... You say he is (was) a very good friend, and as you say there is nothing happened between you, so I assume he didn't tried anything...... he is in a totally new place now the job might be different, different kind of people.... give him sometime so that he can settle down there...... He was here when you needed a friend, might be he is in the same situation where he needs a good friend who can support him....... It will feel vey hard when you dont hear from someone very close to you... but you have to give some time... Be calm... concentrate on other things for sometime.... Dont be in a rush......

Answer 4

Don't let it get to you too much. Guys are dumb. He may not have a clue that you like him that way, plus he is a million miles away with his whole new life in front of him. Maybe you weren't as good as friends as you thought if isn't staying in touch like a good friend would. I know I have friends that live far away but we manage to stay in touch at least 5 times a year. He has his life and I have mine.

Learn what makes you happy first. Once you are happy on your own and doing your own thing, then and only then shouold you look to find someone to share it with. No one can make you happy forever. It's up to you!

Answer 5

being a best friend can go both ways ,if you are the best friend that I think you say you are ,you will take the good memories and use them for a positive relationship in the future ,many a time we as humans take a strong friendship for something more than what it really is ,this is a dangerously physocologically negative impact since we can mistake even a one night stand with the best of orgasms for more than it really is,you should have made it clear to this guy of the way you felt for him before he leftespecially if you spent a lot of time with him before he left,physcologists say that persons that spend more than two hours a day at any given time develop feelings for the opposite sex,and this is accelerated more if that person is physically attractive,add faster if they are conversational and funny,throw into the equation if that female or male is socially withdrawn or is very lonely,for every problem that we have as humans we err since our,s is more of a thin line between our egos and bearing our souls,then we feel vulnerable since we are an open book,we the human sexes fail to confide in each other as to what makes us tick ,since we may loose the edge,do not beat up on yourself because you feel the way you do,try to do what is natural and meet other people but not before,letting him know how you felt about him,from your question try to settle yourself and be more articulate in your dealing with your problems, take care of your womanhood ,delmy d

Answer 6

First above all else, you need to be honest with yourself and your fellings. If you don't then it will come back to bite you in the rear. Second thing is try and send a letter or email once in a while just to stay freinds with him. Last thing that I can tell you is that thier are plenty of fish in the sea. Good luck to you in your search.

Answer 7

You may want more than he does. He is in a new country and there may be new opportunities for him. Do not feel bad now you just have to go out and keep yourself busy and meet some new people.

Answer 8

hi,

u need to look at ur life, urself;

( away from sight, away from heart... it's fact)
if he is so busy that he is not replying e-mails / fones;
so, take a note of urself; ur choices - likings;

take a fresh deep breath in the morning,
walk - confidently on to be ur self;
hey, u have almost re-gained ur confidence - 50% done
rest , 2moro; surely;

best of luck;
many-ques!!!

Answer 9

forget him bcus long distance relationships dont work out. maybe he knows this so he doesnt want to get his emtions in it. or he might be too busy to talk to u. if he wasnt having fun he would of been talking to you. but he mihgt be playing hard to get. life must go on.

Answer 10

hi

i doesn't want to say u any thing coz its Ur life,do that things,which will show u r mind,
but am agree with vijay agrwal.

OK bye good luck.