how could i let a guy know that i just met, that im not going have sex with anytime to soon the thing is im tired of getting pressure but i dont mind making out but it have to be some type of boundaries.
2006-09-26 08:19:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Computers & Internet ➔ Other - Computers
sorry you guys due to the area im in my computer is acting wacko all my questions are somehow posting under computers
2006-09-26 08:20:24 · update #1
i do like him but i getting tired of getting pressure about this because im a virgin
2006-09-26 08:24:10 · update #2
tell him straight up, if you don't he'll never get the message
2006-09-26 08:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just say no. Very simple.
But remember this.....a guy gets turned on with very little prompting from you. It is your responsibility then to not do things that go too far and then say no.
Once you go beyond kissing, like petting, you have given the message you may want to go all the way. Not fair for him to get that message and then be turned down.
That aside you are in charge of your body and you do not have to feel bad about the pressure you get. A reasonable man will respect your wishes and not push it beyond your boundary.
Remember, however, what is just fun for you can be electrifying to him. So just be careful where you go and you have nothing to worry about.
2006-09-26 15:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty. Just tell him and SHOW him how much he means to you. Show him through the little things. There are ways that I look for to see that a girl is serious and isn't bsing me or stringing me along if she is one of those types that wants to wait an abnormal amount of time before sex.
If you are still a virgin though you can tell him how you honestly feel and your reasons why. If he doesn't like it, or you don't want to before marriage and he does, then it isn't going to work out so the two of you are at least bieng up front with each other to make a decision.
2006-09-26 15:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should be clear and let him know that kissing and cuddling are okay, not nothing further - maybe you could say something like "hands over the clothes" not under the clothes.
Frankly, if you don't know him well enough to tell him, then you really don't know him well enough to be putting yourself in a position where it might happen.
That reminds me of the pregnant girl who said that she didn't know her boyfriend well enough to talk about birth control!
Try just "dating", you know - going for a walk, a movie, a burger or something - dating is the time you spend with each other, actually spending time together to find out if this is a person you might like to be intimate with.
2006-09-26 15:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for both of you is to talk about it, he should know your not interested right now into sex, if he is a good guy he won't put any pressure on you.
2006-09-26 15:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by danielvdt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this: " I really want to take things slow, (you can even say you're kind of old fashioned) I hope you can respect that."
Then be honest about saying "stop" if things get too heavy for you. If he doesn't respect you, kick him to the curb.
Edited to add- if you're a virgin- tell him you're waiting for marriage, or that your waiting for the perfect time. That's even a better reason for him to back off some. Just be honest with what you're comfortable with. If he doesn't understand or keeps pushing you, he isn't worth your time.
2006-09-26 15:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's best to tell him in the beginning. Especially when he is leaving little hints about it. Tell him you are serious. If he is a nice guy he will give up. If he is a jerk he will keep putting the pressure on you anyway.
2006-09-26 15:33:29 · answer #7 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, now I understand why it is in the wrong category.
I will attempt to answer anyway:
Tell him..! Nothing more to it than just plain straight forward about it. That will stop him cold, dead on his tracks.
Don't have sex with a stranger. No glove no love.
2006-09-26 15:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the activities you will do and the ones that you won't, and mean it! Tell him you would feel much better around him if you do not feel sexual pressure, and that if you change your mind you will tell him yourself.
2006-09-26 15:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a solution to that problem that works every time.
Date somebody else. Somebody who has something other than balls where his brains should be.
There ARE males who are less sex-stupid.
2006-09-26 15:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by jarm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your entering a convent
2006-09-26 15:21:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋