Ok, so you have all been there so you know what im talking about - and hopefully i wont get any abuse from other people because of this question.
I have a close friend online, we have been chatting for over 9 months now, and i think maybe im starting to have a hint of a "crush" on him - people say, judging by what the guy says to me that he has a lot of feelings for me too
But i cant understand how i can be sure seeing as though i cant hear his tone of voice nor see his body language
I have spoken to him on the phone but only for like half an hour about absolute rubbish, just because he wanted to hear my voice, and we text each other often too - we speak online EVERY day, and i know its not a brother/sister friendship because....just trust me on this one!
Also, he said something odd to me as though he was "trying" to tell me that he likes me, but backed out in the end.
Do you think my imagination is going into overdrive or could i really be falling for him and vice versa
2006-09-26 08:16:07 · 17 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh and i forgot to mention that we argue very often too about the SILLIEST things,
And i managed to persuade him to stop drinking alcohol, and eating unsuitable meats (as its against our religion) so he eventually listened to me :P
AND he is a legitimate friend because he is actually a friend of a friend - whom i was introduced through, eventhough i havent met him myself
We have used webcam too so he knows how i look and i know how he looks
2006-09-26 08:16:34 · update #1
lol all i will say to this one is be very careful i once ended up dating a guy on yahoo and all hell broke loose this guy told me he loved me and wanted to be with me forever he built all my hopes up and then smashed them like glass in my face i mean hell he was like a wierdo or somthin after he dumped me he staled me for months and from time to time still pops up and says hello i have changed my id several times and he still does it i dunno how he finds out of my new ids i dont have pics other than this profile which is the one i used when we was dating lol i have him on stealth so all i will say to you is be very careful there are some crazy people on the computer
2006-09-26 09:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by emadaviesjilly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How close do you live to him? Why not meet him in person and see how things go?
I'm 30 years old. When I was 16 I started going online and I had a lot of pen pals. Some of them developed into what you're describing here, but when we met in person there wasn't any 'click'. It's sad to lose such a good relationship with someone because you don't click in person. I'd say in the 10 years I was online, thru various dating sites or whatever, I met in person over 50 guys. And only 2 of them turned into relationships and that's when I was 17 and 18.
On the other hand, what do you have to lose, really? I'm sure your life was full and good before you 'met' this guy, so even if there wasn't a click in person, you would be losing a friend, but your life would still be good and full. So why not meet him?
I met my husband 4 years ago(Sept 16, 2002) through match.com. It turned out he was friends with a coworker I knew from my last job, so that was kind of like kismet. We had dated 9 months when he proposed at a concert of one of my favorite local singers. We got married Sept 18, 2004, and have been married for 2 years and a week now. He's absolutely the one for me. He laughs at the same stuff I do, he's smart in ways I'm not and kinda dumb in ways I'm smart, he has varied interests that broaden my interests, and he loves me more than anyone else ever could. Unconditionally. I consider myself blessed to have found him and incredibly lucky that he chose me to spend the rest of his life with.
2006-09-26 15:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by Moxie1313 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have just looked at the answers posted for this question & cannot believe how many trusting, gullible people there are out there.
I want to understand how you can fall for a person you have never met but simply cannot get my head round it.
I think love has to come gradually from meeting a person, slowly getting to know them & their little foibles & deciding that you are compatible. I can't fathom how you could possibly know enough about a person to fall in love without ever physically meeting each other.
Sorry but I think you are nuts. Half the time it doesn't work when it is done the conventional way but surely this way is simply storing up trouble in the long run.
2006-09-26 15:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my guy over the Internet; we chatted for months then I flew 6,000 miles to meet him face to face (backup plan in place of course); but all went so well that I flew back again and back again and eventually moved to be with him. Now, normally I wouldn't consider living with a guy first, but with so many miles in-between, it seemed the best way to see if we were all we thought we were before making a lifetime commitment. Long story short, we'll be celebrating our first wedding anniversary in November.
It's not the easiest way and I could safely say that more Internet romances fail than work; but what is life and love if you don't take a risk now and again with your heart? If you loose, you go another route... but if you win... well there you go.
2006-09-26 16:15:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand what you are feeling. I to have been talking
to a guy for about two month. I met him threw here and we
chat on messenger all the time. We chat everyday, several times a day. And we talk about everything. The friendship is real strong.I would like to meet him in person.
It is always possible to meet and fall in love. All you can do is
keep the friendship going, and if it is meant to be, it will happen.
Good luck.......
2006-09-26 15:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just come out and ask him? Obviously you have feelings for him and you think he does for you. Would he be spending every day talking to you online if he didn't like you? It sounds to me like he does. But I would suggest not trying to pursue it very further then friends without meeting, I'm telling you this from experience. An online or long distance relationship is a lot different then a real life one.
2006-09-26 15:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by mommyem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fell in love with my boyfriend, through Yahoo, but i did have a very simular situation before hand like your one.
The only way forward is to tell him your true feelings. Just say, I think I am getting a crush on you. Doing it thriugh messenger, there is less inhibitions, but over the phone you can judge his reaction.
If he is genuine, he will react the same way, but the same rules apply, tell people where you go when you meet, and take things at your pace.
Good Luck
2006-09-26 15:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by natasha * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have to spend some time with a person in my opinion, however, I have a friend that met a guy online and they have been married now for two years. He relocated and they seem really happy.
For me, it is just really strange! I like to see how a person reacts to the things I say and do. I love to smell his hair and feel him. If I can't use all of my senses, it just seems like I am being shortchanged in some way. Who knows what could come of it. I would say one thing....communication should not be a problem in a relationship like that.
2006-09-26 15:22:33 · answer #8 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this has been going on for 9 months so if i was you i would just ask him how he feels and if he wants to take it a bit future.Its time to get a realtionship going now or just letting it go and being just internet freinds.Why have you 2 never met?Seems like you need to start that would be a big help.wish ya luck but i really dont understand you 2s realtionship it seems out there and maybe one of you really isnt interested in one of the other i dont know id find out tho .
2006-09-26 15:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by blondie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well personally speaking I think its the mysteriousness of these realtionships that can keep the spark ignited - the anticipation of actually meeting that person and the buzz you get out of communicating with them - but then when you meet them I think the preconcepted idea you have of them can change drastically.
however you never know until you try!
I dont think youre falling for him though - more falling for the idea of it and you're kinda lusting after a what could be.
Only advice I can give you is to follow your instincts - just dont confuse them!! xx
2006-09-27 10:05:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋