you see my best friend got mad at me for not excepting the fact that he is gay. but i cant because its against my religion. i was told it was wrong and it has its consequences along the way. what should i do? i know im not the chooser of his orientation but its just that he makes me feel guilty for it.
2006-09-26 08:10:56 · 46 answers · asked by shanice 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Love the sinner but hate the sin. Say, "I may not agree with your lifestyle choices, but I still love you as a person and as a friend" and leave it at that.
2006-09-26 08:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
First of all I don't like the word "can't" there's no such word, you don't want to would be more appropriate. Whether your friend is gay or not doesn't change who he is. He was friend until that point and for some reason you guys stayed friends until the gay issue came out. As for religion, should he not accept you because of your religion? Everyone has different beliefs and you aren't the one who needs to judge. That needs to be left to the person upstairs. You can't force someone to be something they aren't just like he can't force you to stop believing in your religion. If you are truely his friend then your religion beliefs shouldn't come between you. Friends are few and hard to find these days. Especially when they are the good ones. You need to decide whether your religion or your friendship is more important to you.
2006-09-26 08:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by missfinley2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends come and friends go, but your religion will always be. You can choose friends just like you can choose to be religious or not. Look, I have friends who drink, but I don't hold that against them, and I have friends who smoke, again i don't hold that against them. This is no different! To except what they do, no I won't and they better not expect me to, because I may believe what they are doing is wrong, but they are still my friends. They don't try to make me feel guilty because I don't except it. Like I said they are my friends. There is real friends, want to be friends, and so called friends. Where does this friend belong? I hate to be the one to tell you this, but you don't need this kind of friend. Read your bible, and the truth will come to you. I'm not a bible thumper or do I even go to church, but I do know right from wrong. I'm sure there are thousands of people who disagree with me, but that is ok. They have a right to disagree with me, but not to get mad at me, because I don't believe in hating people. Good Luck!
2006-09-26 08:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you both are having problems accepting eachother. You cant accept hes gay and he cant accept the fact that you cant accept him. You should have a long serious talk. If you two are good friends it should work itself out because if you were friends before you found this out then you both know you are friends for more than your sexual orientation. Plus you dont have to accept the fact he is gay but you can accept his choices and who he is as a person.
2006-09-26 08:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you believe that he is not the chooser of his orientation than what's the problem with accepting him? Religions are not always 100% accurate. Sometimes you have to think for yourself. This is your best friend? Then treat him like it. Take my word for it. My best friend died 3 months ago and I would do anything to have her back. Cherish your best friend and don't let something this silly come between you.
2006-09-26 08:14:27 · answer #5 · answered by kristina 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
First of all, whether or not you accept that he's gay or not doesn't change the fact that he is. He says so, he is. If your religious beliefs don't support his sexual orientation, that's different. What's important for you to understand is that HE did not choose his sexual orientation either. I have a gay guy friend and he once said to me that he wished he wasn't gay, wished it with all of his heart. He said his life would be so much simpler if he was hetero, that his sexual orientation would not be the thing against which all of him is measured by society.
I am a Christian but I soundly and forever gave up church because of the single-minded hate that I felt festering in the church toward homosexuals. Doesn't seem like all that Godly of behavior to hate people based on what they do with their private parts.
2006-09-26 08:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i'm from Chicago and that i'm Christian catholic. i do not ideas gay human beings. There are some gay instructors at my college and they are large. although, why may God encourage gay couples even as they could't reproduce. i imagine human beings finally end up being gay like murderers finally end up being murderers. there are an incredible style of sinful human beings available yet i do not see a mendacity parade on the files. in spite of everything how risky is mendacity? Or sex in the previous marriage? I mean anybody does it. yet no man or woman likes a assassin. apparently homicide is the merely sin.
2016-12-02 02:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christ said, "Love One Another". Your friend is who he is, and being his friend will not count against you. Do you think that by abandoning him instead of setting an example for him is going to make him want to "change his mind"? Let Heavenly Father be his Judge, not you.
Just because you believe homosexuality is wrong, doesn't mean you can't accept people for who they are. Be his friend. He's no different now that he's gay. His partying venues may change, but he needs his best friend there for him as well.
2006-09-26 08:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are so wrong you ought to be shot. Why do you believe everything you are told, but only by Christians or the bible.
If your priest or minister told you that puppies are evil incarnate and must be burned alive would you start burning puppies?
Do you really think being gay is a choice? Did someone tell you that? They were wrong.
That would be like saying Parkinson's or Alzheimer's or Cerebral Palsy or Schizophrenia is a choice. That is ridiculous.
Would you abandon your own child if he told you he was gay?
That just doesn't sound like a good (Christian) thing to do. It's because of all these horrible rules and prejudices that I will never be Christian!
You suck !!!
2006-09-26 08:18:42 · answer #9 · answered by C P R 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunately you are the reason why your friend would turn away from religion, which may be the very thing he needs! Why would you want to be part of a religion who thinks your evil. You need to accept your friend and teach him about how Jesus loves everyone, even him. It's hard for gay people to come out to their friends because of the fear of rejection and you just made that fear come true, congratulations! It's a good thing Jesus didn't just abandon anyone who sinned or else none of us would be here.
2006-09-26 09:18:03 · answer #10 · answered by Disney Dreamer 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm religious as well, yet I can't believe that my God would punish me for loving my best friend whom by the way is "gay" as well.
I always wonder what happened to honor and love your fellow brothers and sisters??( In a religious sense) who are we to judge, hate, and discriminated.
I can't imagine, not accepting my best friend because of his sexual PREFERENCE, it's his life. You don't have to accept his lifestyle, just accept the friendship and know that he is the same person whom you developed a friendship with.
2006-09-26 08:37:43 · answer #11 · answered by E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋