what do you do, when it becomes a threat, you know for the worse, part. it can't get worse then it has. i've been m.i.a for four days now. she was found cheating and doing drugs. my inner voice is screaming, people make mistakes, i should forgive, i agree with this inner feeling , at the same time something else says, run for the border and don't look back, which approach is best? the yellow diamond from santa fe, i was going to give to her and let her pick the setting. should i give it to my mom???
2006-09-26 08:07:37 · 15 answers · asked by lee f 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Inner voices, threats, M.I.A, yellow diamond...Sounds like you have a split personality..... Run from who? Don't look back???
2006-09-26 08:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do believe in love...I'm not trying to make excuses for her...I don't even know her, but drugs can make you do things you later regret with a passion. If you really do love her and want to spend your life with her she is going to need some help. Counseling, maybe some rehab depending on how hooked she is on the drugs. With you there by her side she may have a chance. Forgiveness is very important too, but can you let what she go? You can't throw it up in her face when an argument flares up. If this is something you can't deal with then maybe your best bet is to run and not look back. As for the diamond, if you are going to stick by her hold on to it. You don't want to give it to your mom and down the road if things work out want it back. Let me know what happens...Good Luck!
2006-09-26 15:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If something inside you says forgive, then do it, but do it rationaly express your anger, take controll of the relashionship for now and give her boundries if she does not accept then you must walk away bc she'll do it again, but if you love her find out why she cheated, most women wont cheat without reason, and especially if she was on drugs, find out why, is she depressed, just talk to her, but keep up your guard, go with your heart man, true love only happens once and people are prone to making mistakes,but dont second guess bc this will be a painful journey if your not willing to forgive just walk away bc eventually you will be the end of the relationship. good luck man hope it works out.
2006-09-26 15:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by jason 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you care about her, enough.. you'll try to get her into something to get her off of the drugs, for one. For 2... I know that we hate to hear it, but cheating once might be neccessary... sometimes peoples minds get lost and they forget what they really have... cheating once might be a wake up call for them. Repeative cheating, though... or even cheating twice, is uncalled for. I'm not saying that cheating is right... I'm onlt saying that maybe if it does happen, it will open some eyes. If you don't think that you can get your head past the fact, though.. I'd just leave, because things will only get worse from here.
2006-09-26 15:11:39 · answer #4 · answered by Miss T. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing you are still fairly young.Tuck the yellow diamond in a safe place for now.I wouldn't give to the girl because she'll probably sell it for drugs.Go home and give your mom a big hug. She loves you and you are hurting bad now. Go to a narcotics anonymous or al-anon meeting or two . You need some help to deal with this.Good luck.
2006-09-26 15:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by nancy e 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this point I think you should use your rationality instead of emotion. Do what you think is the best move for you and what will make you happy.
People are going to have 1001 opinions, don't take it but think about what they say and make your decision based on what you think is right (not what others think you should do).
Love is an emotion and it weakens us but at some point we have to stop ourselves from getting to tied up in that emotion (coz it can destroy us) if we don't snap out and think with our brains.
Good luck and I hope you come to a decision that will make you happy and don't look back.
2006-09-26 15:11:39 · answer #6 · answered by Pudge_Monsta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe in love but at the same time love hurts real bad if you don't be careful. You find that person that you are so in love with and will do anything for, then you find out any dirt and every dirt about that person. That's why I say yes I believe in love but some love ain't all what it is in the end.
2006-09-26 15:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by shonnie_playgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well love is conundrum! Cheating to his real loved ones has no place in Love.Drug is addictive things,you should not forgive her for her act.You can turn it over to your Mom The Yellow diamond.
2006-09-26 15:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by precede2005 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it to your mom. Anyone who does that to you, doesn't really love you and is pretty messed up. I know that you care for her, but you can't change how she is. She has already damaged your relationship and that damage can't be taken back. It is also likely, that you will never trust her again. Save yourself from future heartache and hit the hills. She is on her own destructive path and you don't need to be dragged down with her.
2006-09-26 15:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow....I am so sorry. It sounds like you are crused, as you should be. No one can answer your question for you. Only you can decide if you can forgive her and help her. You don't mention how long you've been together, but that should also factor in your decision. I sincerely wish you the best of luck...
2006-09-26 15:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by Mom of 3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋