Hey all, I have yet another question. I am a 21 year old pregnant, college student who has started my student teaching as a requirement for graduation and to become a certified teacher. This semester I began student teaching High School . I don't have a belly yet but am pretty sure that around November I will. The issue I am having is that I look young, I am young. I've even been mistaken for a student in the same school I am student teaching in. Im just worried that my being pregnant and showing will somehow send a bad message to the teenagers in the school. I am not at all ashamed, just a bit confused. I am trying to get my school work done with, especially now.Maybe i should wait to student teach high school after the baby comes?
2006-09-26 08:02:10 · 17 answers · asked by Michelle 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think that your personal life should have no effects on your finishing your student teaching. Just be honest. If kids ask you questions, be open and honest with them. You never know, that actually might start some open and honest talks about sex... and why they should wait.. You should be very clear that YOU are an adult FINISHING COLLEGE to provide a very nice home for this baby... Good luck!
P.S, It will be much easier to do the student teaching and get as much done BEFORE the baby comes! Good luck hon!
2006-09-26 08:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quite honestly, I'd do it now while you can. It is an unspoken rule that unmarried females who are pregnant will not get hired...you are a role model, after all. I would not mention my pregnancy - not now and not after, unless you say you are divorced or separated. I'm sorry, but in the field of education you are going to have to have a "cover story." Buy some baggy clothes and buy a wedding band for later on...tell people you were briefly married and things didn't work out and you really don't want to talk about it. When I was in college (not that long ago...) you wouldn't have even been able to student teach as a single pregnant woman. Good luck, and congrats about the baby! I do wish you the best.
2006-09-26 08:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by applebetty34 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it sends a bad message at all. If people wish to judge you without knowing who you are (i.e. if people think you're a student at the school and pregnant) you cannot stop them. What you can maybe do is to try and distinguish yourself a bit from the students - get a more "mature" haircut, wear stylish clothes (rather than relaxed) etc. Obviously I don't know what you normally wear or what your hair looks like!
I think young teachers have a powerful message to give to students - who better to talk about responsible sexuality than someone who is close to their age and who has experienced all the pressures first hand?
In terms of timing, it's probably a good idea to get as much of your schoolwork done before the baby comes as possible - it's unfair to you and the baby to have to divide your attention too much after the baby is born.
Good luck!
2006-09-26 08:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by Linda K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel self-concience and want to avoid questions, wear a band on your wedding finger. I know that sounds cliche and old-fashioned, but my girlfriend went through a similar situation and wearing the ring simply made the pregnancy less questionable...
and no, she wasn't (and still isn't) with the father of her son.
She found out that by not wearing a ring, nosy busy-bodies assumed they had every right to give her the third degree about the father, her plans for the future, child support, even asking why she didn't get an abortion! Once she started wearing a wedding band, they didn't have the same predatory curiosity.
I agree with the fact that your being pregnant and continuing to teach should not be a bad message: being a "working mother" should be more of an inspiration!
2006-09-26 08:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by dragonwing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me when I say this - life is all-consuming when a baby comes. Especially in the first couple of months it is extremely difficult to do anything but look after the baby.
Unless you have bucket loads of cash, I wouldn't go for Child-minding or have nursery care. So, if I were you, do as much as schoolwork as you can until you have the baby.
Also, about the time our mummies were preggers with us, the clothes were horrific. (Seriously!lol) But now, they're not. They're really not bad. Some look so good, I would like to buy them, but I can't cos I'm not preggers!lol
The reason good preggie clothes are good is because they make the bump less noticeable (unless it's huge). Try Jojo Maman Bebe on the web or mini marvellous (they're british websites) or something you may have heard of. If you don't know of any, try and look in pregnancy magazines that are local to you and they will have stuff in there that can help.
2006-09-26 08:16:07 · answer #5 · answered by lotusgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a little iffy-and it largly will rest on personal oppinion. It will also rest on you relationship status. I hate to say it, but some people are going to have a problem with it.
I got shot down for a job at a high school that I was ridiculously better qualified for than the person who got the job (who by the way I recently found was doing crystal meth-funny, should have hired me! lol) because I was 21. (it was an attendance secretary job.) Age is gonna be hard enough and then throw your predicament in.
I think that you should do it, why pay for an extra semester later? you will also need to be able to get into a steady job sooner once the baby comes...but be preapred to deal with the backlash if people find out....sorry to say that to an extent, it will come with the territory! good luck!
2006-09-26 08:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
21 is fairly young these days but not that young! You could try wearing clothes that make you look a little older, or carry accessories like a briefcase rather than a messenger bag or backpack. This might help separate yourself out from the student population. Otherwise just enjoy the fact that you are doing something worthwhile in life, good teachers are essential.
2006-09-26 08:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by Behhar B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think that your pregnancy is anybody's business. Just get yourself psyched up when you walk into school- make sure you command respect from the students. Be friendly, of course, but don't let them walk on all over you. I think being young makes people less likely to recognize your competence in any field. I'm 23, and am a church pianist (as well as a piano teacher). I've played piano since I was 6, and recieved formal, classical training. Before I took over as pianist, the old pianist would talk down to me and act like she knew more than I did (nevermind that I have three times the training and performance experience than she). Her attitude carried over to some of the church members- most people have changed their opinion about me, but some still treat me like I'm just a kid. I'm still battling that with the organist. I don't worry about it, though, because I don't believe in competing because, well, God's the one who should get the attention, not me. Just go in there with confidence- that's what I did and I get compliments all the time!!
2006-09-26 09:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by JustMyOpinion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult and by November everyone will know you're not a student there. I don't think you should stop teaching high school. Your pregnancy might even be a learning opportunity for some of those kids.
2006-09-26 08:09:05 · answer #9 · answered by mockingbird 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 20:37:59 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋