we dated about 1 year and a half and have been married about a year. i just need to know why she changed so much so fast, i mean it was like a complete 180! is it my fault?
2006-09-26 08:00:58 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not your FAULT - but take a look around. I bet you have changed too.
Lots of things have changed and it can be VERY hard to deal with - the early years of marriage can be very stressful. the feeling of lost independence, the merging of finances, the stress of work, marriage, housekeeping, etc. The change in behavior of those around you (believe me, my friends treat me differently now that I am married!!)
A lot of things have changed in your lives and it can be hard to handle. If things are so bad you don't think you can handle it - try marriage counseling. You may have NO IDEA what's going on in her head and you might not notice that YOU have changed too. Therapy can help uncover these things and get you back on track.
2006-09-26 08:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriedman, look down at your hand, see that ring, now get used to it or get divorced...I am only kidding..All mariages and relationships get old or routine after a while it is probably both your faults it has gone this way.. Now it is time to change things a bit, shake things up, or take my kidding advice which 50% of marriages end up anyway..You are on the right track, at least you are looking for help, even if it started just now...Talk to your wife about this.... Go to couples counceling.. Ask your wife out on a date..Go away together for a weekend and stay locked in the room naked....Buy some toys and spice up your bedroom maybe try some role play...Maybe it is time to have a kid... Take some classes together or maybe it is time apart you need or separste hobbies..These are some ideas, Good Luck, I just celebrated 10 years of marriage and we always have to keep reconnecting a relationship is a life long process...
2006-09-26 15:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal to go through a little down phase after a year or a year and a half or so. The honeymoon is over, the joy of being with each other every night and day is the norm now. I don't know that it would be anyone's fault, but the only person you control is you, so...... put some romance into it. When she comes home one evening have her a rose-petal bath drawn in a candle-lit bathroom for her to relax in while you cook dinner.
2006-09-26 15:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You started being together all the time, you see things about other person that hadn't noticed before. To be honest marriage brings out the worst in someone, they show their true face and that face doesn't look the same anymore. That is the reason I would never marry anyone.
2006-09-26 15:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens alot so don't worry yet. Its probably alot of things.
Try romancing her, like you did before you were married. Like
call her in the middle of the day and sweet talk her. Plan a week
end get away. Buy her cute little gifts. maybe cook her a romantic
meal with candles, and a bottle of wine.
2006-09-26 15:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has this idea that is how its supposed to be when u are married. Does her parents fit in to this new persona? Did u ask her. Maybe she doesn't know it. She sounds happily married and settled in to her routine of being a good housewife. Wanting a future. With the man of her dreams.
2006-09-26 17:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by someones sister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, it's always at least 50% your fault, it takes two to make it or break it. Consider counseling if you can't figure out what went wrong. There's not enough info in your question to warrant a guess as to what happened there. Perhaps you chose to ignore the warning signs of what was to come, fooling yourself into thinking she was one way, and she turned out to be different from what you wished her to be.
2006-09-26 15:23:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew the answer to that.My bf says we will never get married because everything changes when you do.Which i have seen friends get married and it fall to pieces in no time.My bf says marriage is the #1 reason for divorce.Haha!!! I know that's probably not what you wanted hear.Sorry!! I wish you luck and try talking to your wife.Maybe she doesn't realize how she has been acting.Good Luck!!
2006-09-26 15:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably more stress in her life. Alot of people can't handle stress and start acting like idiots. Some people change when they are cheating or fall outta love. You didnt say what changed about her. I would call Cheaters and find out if there is a lil dark secret!
2006-09-26 15:03:47 · answer #9 · answered by Mystie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With marriage comes more responsibilites.. Maybe she is just tired. Try doing some things to help lighten her load, and she could find more time for you. No, I don't think you are the fault. When you are tired, a lot of things change, your attitude, and your sex drive.
2006-09-26 15:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by Justice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋