2006-09-26 07:58:49 · 72 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes if your partner doesn't mind, and also if you slip the fact that you are married into the conversation while flirting. Then everyone involved can adjust their expectations.
You might think the person you're flirting with would run off, but you'd be surprised how many remain interested.
2006-09-27 02:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Junisai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If you're naturally flirty and are just being you, having a laugh and a joke, then fine. However, flirting with intent or being too touchy-feely is not good.
Case in point: my friend's husband started flirting with me. Not just in his usual flirt-with-everyone way, but really getting touchy feely under the water - WITH HIS MISSUS SITTING RIGHT THERE! I started to ask myself, 'does he want a 3some?' but my friend really isn't into that so I thought better of it. Then he started texting me, wanting to do all this webcam stuff... Anyway, he put me in a really difficult situation, especially as he was already carrying on with said friend's OTHER friend at one point...
If you're gonna flirt, beware of the consequences, i.e. if someone starts taking you seriously and then coming onto you. There follows a fine line, my friend, a fine line consisting of a layer of underpant fabric. If you cross that line, then you are wholly responsible for having a frying pan being implanted into your cranium.
2006-09-26 08:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the boundaries you have set-up with your partner. Flirting, though, can tend to put out the message to others that you might not be too serious about your significant other. I have been on both sides of this issue, it's a freaking mess. Talk to your mate, find out where the lines are, then respect them. Believe me, you do not want to follow that route too far, it's all fun and games until someone develops feelings. Good Luck with that.
2006-09-26 08:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jon S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" I would never dare do anything to hurt her, but sometimes I get this nagging temptation to just f-things up completely, especially after having arguments and when I'm mad." This is not normal for mature, well-adjusted people. And what does this have to do with th rest of your question? "She has made a few salacious comments about the shirt I was wearing, which made me a tad uncomfortable and shes asked for my phone number a few times, so I keep making excuses that I dont have one or dont really use one. " Did you know that feminists have popularized the perfect answer to this conundrum? It's the word "no". Use it. Don't use your being married as an excuse, if her attentions are unwanted, make that clear.
2016-03-18 01:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person and what you mean by flirt. Inappropriate and suggestive-NO!!! Friendly conversation with a person who you happen to find attractive-YES!!! It happens. However, you don't want to flirt with a person who you see on a daily basis such as a coworker. It could become uncomfortable and misinterpreted. But, a stranger, why not. I don't understand why you would feel guilty unless there was something improper about the whole situation.
2006-09-26 08:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by black mamba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the end, it really depends on your gut reactions. If you feel guilty about flirting with others, then you are being unfaithful. Similarly, if you feel perfectly fine while doing it, then you're just having some innocent fun. Most of us have a sex drive, and marriage doesn't kill our attraction towards other people. The importance is to understand it and know your boundaries (although you can try to convince your woman and the girl to join you for a threesome :)).
2006-09-26 08:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by Yu_pimp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No if you value your marriage. Flirting can lead on to more intimate things so don't get caught out in the first place. Be friendly but don't go any further if you want to risk your relationship.
2006-09-26 09:06:27 · answer #7 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your relationship with your spouse, and it also depends on what you mean by flirting. Mild flirting can be fun and can ease the social interaction between couples. But, heavier flirting (the kind that implies you really would do something behind your spouse's back) it destructive. So, my advice is to have an open discussion with your spouse and communicate about where you want the flirting boundaries, and then stick to them. *wink*
2006-09-26 08:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a long term relationship.I do not see any harm in a bit of flirting.If a couple 100% trust one another there is no problem.If one person in the relationship has any insecurities then no,it can be extremely damaging.It depends if you know your partner inside out.My partner is like my other half,and vice versa.I am totally commited and don't believe in being unfaithful.In my eyes being unfaithful is touching/kissing having relations with another person when in a relationship.
2006-09-26 17:43:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends.... Some people are flirty by nature... So, as long is an innocent flirt is OK... However, if you flirt with intentions to get involved with the person... Then I guess is totally wrong and unacceptable!
2006-09-26 08:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by Marmot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋