My husband doesn't know. He doesn't want another baby for a few years, but I can't get this feeling of wanting to be pregnant and having another baby around the house with Paige and I.
Are there any women out there that have concived without their spouce knowing?
2006-09-26 07:42:33 · 15 answers · asked by Ayla_Trip 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Thank you all for your advise. Sometimes I get ahead of myself and start to plan things without thinking. That is why I posted this question. I have decided that I will wait and talk with him before doing it behind his back.
2006-09-26 08:37:11 · update #1
My wife did and i was a little upset. This would probably not be a good idea. It might be a good idea to sit down with you husband and discuss your needs for having another child. Maybe with a little persasian you might get him to agree with you. But if you do what you want without him knowing about it and he finds out somehow like I did, he will not be a happy person. I love my child alot but the first rule to a happy and healthly marriage is honesty
2006-09-26 07:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by jack_daniels 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea! This is the kind of thing that sparks divorces. Deception is wrong and will make your husband lose all trust in you. Once trust is gone, it takes a long time to earn it again - if ever. Your husband isn't just a sperm donor - he's a father too. He has the right to decide if he wants to be a father again or not. That is not your decision to make for him. Talk to him about your feelings. Maybe the two of you can compromise on a sooner time frame to conceive again.
2006-09-26 15:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get pregnant on purpose, it's going to put a strain on your marriage. Having kids puts enough on it, then to add in the fact the you lied to him? You are nuts and will head to divorce court.
Be patient, he'll eventually see that you want a baby and he will agree to it. My husband didn't want one in December or January...he changed his mind and we got pregnant in March!
It takes time. GIve him space and time.
How old is your daughter? Maybe he doesn't want them so close in age?
2006-09-26 14:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by jevic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont' have any kids but if you really want one you should talk 2 your husband and let him know so no problems will resolve. just dont do it behind your husbands back cuz if he's not ready then it will be hard to raise a child by yourself.
2006-09-26 14:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by SexyAmby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's fair to do that to your husband. He may feel like you went behind his back purposely to do this, which you would, and that's not fair.
If you want to become pregnant again talk to him about it instead of being immature and going behind his back.
You may be doing something you may regret later.
2006-09-26 14:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a pretty mean thing to do. Wait until BOTH of you are ready.
2006-09-26 14:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you not tell your husband??? He should be a HUGE part of this decision! It's his life too. I think this is wrong and dishonest!
2006-09-26 14:45:12 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How very inconsiderate, damn glad I'm not married to you.
Now suppose he had a vasectomy and didn't tell you??? I bet you wouldn't like it if he didn't talk to you first........ you'd probably divorce or try to sue him.
2006-09-26 14:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by usaf.primebeef 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I would wait until he is ready too.
2006-09-26 14:47:12 · answer #9 · answered by eddysmomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is wrong, this kinda thing should be a decision the both of you should make!
2006-09-26 14:57:06 · answer #10 · answered by hannah and hailyn's mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋