My marriage has been HORRIBLE. There aren't enough characters to list all the details. I have encountered UNENDING emotional and verbal abuse...and even some physical. He is manipulative, a liar, a cheater, and speaking as a person in the healthcare field, he has psychopathic tendencies. Well, as I turned 30 in July, I decided that this relationship was completely toxic and i had to end it. It took five weeks for me to build the strenght to do it, but I filed for the divorce. His cousin and I had ran into each other a few weeks after i did. We only talked platonically at first, and without intention. He actually tried to get me to give it a chance. After I told him about some of the stuff I went through, his opinion changed. After about a month, we went out to late lunch one day. We were hanging out, as we had been since we'd seen each other, and one thing led to another- we are SO MUCH MORE compatible than hubby and I ever were. We've talked about pros/cons & are "2gether" now. Wrong?
2006-09-26 07:34:10 · 17 answers · asked by lilac b 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men are sneaky and smart. You are probably very hot looking and you filled this cousins mind with all the things you hate and love, well that gives him an edge on making you feel good. You are at a vulnerable stage and should hold off especially with his family member. Families have strong bonds and he will eventually side with his cousin and throw things in your face. Think about it for a while because after a divorse you are desperate for love and can receive it in all the wrong places and for all the wrong reasons.
2006-09-26 07:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not wrong but I do think you should take it VERY slowly and think hard. Dating within your soon to be ex's family may cause more problems than you can handle. You should also think of the fact that having so recently been living with an abusive thug of a man having a date with the local zoo's gorilla is going to seem like an improvement on what you had. Don't rush into anything, there is plenty of time.
2006-09-26 07:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by U.K.Export 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily, however, if it is a close family, your relationship could be hurt by other family members meddeling. My advise is do what makes you feel happy, and what feels right. You are freshly out of a relationship, and anyone would seem like a prince charming compared to what you have been through, so just be careful... And more power to you!! Also remember that saying...blood is thicker than water.. Men seem to have different rules in relationships than women, and if comes down to it, his cousin wont be the one the family blames.. Just thought I'd add that for you to think about.
2006-09-26 07:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by Justice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's no longer "incorrect" in line with se. the concern is that your mom and others are tormented through your decision as a lot as now this ex husband, and so a concepts as they're worried you're deliberately disrespecting your mom. So the concern isn't even if that's "incorrect." the concern is even if you're prepared to proceed to reason drama interior your kinfolk so as as a lot as now this man or woman. He would nicely be nicely worth that to you, and that is proper because it is your situation. For all i understand your kinfolk is a huge situation and a continuous source of issues for you besides so this isn't something new. even if, in case your kinfolk is often strong to you, and also you want to have conventional lengthy-time period cohesion along with your kinfolk, you should understand your decision to proceed courting this guy and under no circumstances reconcile ameliorations will include a cost. "incorrect?" No. it really is a remember of you weighing the benefits with the downsides and identifying what's precise for you. It makes no huge difference that your mom is alluring and could be able to get some different person. that's what this guy represents to her, and represents to the kinfolk typically, it really is of situation. in case you've been asking me even if you should stay with him, i'd say you should locate some different person to dodge more beneficial issues. Of each and every of the folk obtainable, he's probable no longer the most proper decision by using inherent issues. even if, the alternative is yours, and in worry-free words you recognize the way a lot you're prepared to lose along with your kinfolk interior the destiny compared to what he's able to furnish you as a boyfriend, even if that be short or lengthy time period.
2016-10-16 02:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by rhona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong? Who am I to judge you. But as I'm sure you know or will know dating in the family that you just divorced can be very hard or easy depending on how your relationship is with them. If they understand that there son/brother or whatever was truly a mean guy to you then they might accept it. And if not then you need to watch out!...Not all relationships are worth breaking up a family for. Good luck to you.
2006-09-26 07:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't thinks it necesarily wrong, but it is a messy situation. is this cousin close with the rest of the family? How would work out family situations? (like in the long run with weddings, your children etc) You may not be looking into the longrun cons to this.
If he is close to his family (his cousins etc) it is a BAD idea because you will have to deal with them too. They may think badly of you for leaving your hubby for another member in their family. and it may cause problems within his family too. if some family members side with you, and some side with your exhubby than you have a full blown family fued going on. Do you really want to be responsible for that?
But like I said - its a matter of whether or not he is close with his extended family.
2006-09-26 07:41:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with being close to ex's cousin. It might get tricky at family outings to be seen but take it as it comes.
2006-09-26 07:40:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Jerry Springer material to me.
Bad idea. Should you marry the cousin then your ex-husband will be related to you again. If you dislike him this much it's better to get away from him and that involves not seeing his family members.
2006-09-26 07:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes WRONG!
But you know this already and were looking for someone to reinforce your wrong behavior.
So what how 'horrible' he was, your cheating. And why a relative if not just to hurt your ex?
You mean to tell me you can't find ANYONE ELSE to have sex with?
2006-09-26 07:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure as hell wouldn't do it. I would have have to find comfort with someone else not soo close to the ex. How would you feel if your ex got involved with your cousin.?
2006-09-26 07:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋