i had a chat to a friend about us becoming more than just friends.he said he liked the idea and that we should talk about it.but i saw him today,he was olne and he didnt bring up the subject.why is that? should i bring it up when i see him next?
2006-09-26 07:22:16 · 14 answers · asked by Pagen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It might be that he is waiting until you are together in person. Such a subject isn't adequately covered on line. I mean it would be like your boss sending you an email saying you are fired instead of telling you face-to-face in his office.
Don't be in a hurry to get an answer either. If you want to marry him, some guys need time to consider it all and in fact, it might have made him have to really think about all the things involved. I dated my wife for over a year before I asked her to marry me and then we were engaged for over 6 months before we went to the ceremony.
He also might be the type that feels it should have been him asking first and not you. Give the guy some time to figure out what he wants to do. If it truly is love, it will happen when the time is right. If love dies, it wasn't love in the first place. Read in the Bible I Corinthians chapter 13 about what love is and isn't. First of all, love is patient, kind and doesn't seek its own way. Share that with him too. It might give you both a new perspective.
2006-09-26 07:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be thinking about it, or is unsure what he wants. Give him a bit of time and space then find a non-nagging way to approach it. Something along the lines of "have you thought about what I said to you the other day" or "hey, do you wanna talk" or "do you have some time to talk about that thing". Remember to smile and be open, as this will help to alleviate some fears or hesitation. I would advice respecting whatever answer he gives as a yes or no will both change the nature of your friendship/relationship.
2006-09-26 07:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't bring it up til he does. just act normally, hold ur head up high, talk to ur friends, family, new people as if nothing is wrong! :) hey man, YOU are interested, u let him know waht's up. if he not interested, it's his bad! give him some time to work out his own problems, remember, as long as u are a Happy, Healthy, Positive, Confident person, u are a great catch! and he should be lucky to have someone like u (remember, u also have to make sure u treat others w/ respect, are nice to others, yada yada yada). anyways, as long as u take care of Yourself, all u gotta do now is find someone who does the same, and that way u are free to take care of Each Other in the best possible way! :) good luck~
2006-09-26 07:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by tarmee2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its doesnt matter if you bring it up or if he does first.. . Either way you will get the same answer. But you might scare him off too... Just go with what you feel is right.
2006-09-26 07:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be the one to initiate the topic, he already confirmed to you that he is open to the conversation. He might be a bit shy about it and simply think you already have a speech prepared for him on the topic...who knows...you might "have him at Hello" Fare Thee Well...
2006-09-26 07:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time - a week - then bring it up again. If he keeps putting you off after that - forget it, stay friends and don't bring it up again. Treasure your friendship.
2006-09-26 07:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by RT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, if he didn't answer the question it's because he doesn't want to. It's his way of avoiding having to tell you. He doesn't want more than a friendship..... don't bring it up again...... let him bring it up...
2006-09-26 07:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by msladykm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should bring it up. He's probably just a little shy about it. It was your idea.
2006-09-26 07:28:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything. He knows and the ball is in his court to discuss it with you.
2006-09-26 07:29:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it does not mater who bring it up but all maters is that you solve it and talk about it
good luck
2006-09-26 07:26:32 · answer #10 · answered by INDI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋