I started chatting to a lovely man online. But i gave him a false name and picture, that was 8 months ago. We have fallen in love. I have real deep feelings for him and last week i came clean about what i had done, Now he has seen a picture of me and knows my real name. He still says its love, but can this really work? after all the lies i told him?
help!!
2006-09-26 07:19:06 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
YESSSSSSSSS!! it can work.......i did the exact same thing online showed a different picture same name though, but not actaully because iwas trying to decieve him, but more protect myself.wasnt looking for love.just afriend to chat too.but nevertheless we fell in love i felt wracked with nerves as i new i had to tell him......he didnt care he still loves me...we have been talking now for almost ayear.he has visited me here in england and met my family,i,m going to visit him in november and we are getting married!!!!!!!!!!.so yes heres your proof!go for it girl........but just one thing.after that i never lied again..the worry and agrevation so isnt worth it.godd luck chicky!! hope all works out!
2006-09-26 07:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by georgousgirlz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girlfriend I was doing the on-line thing too. I gave a factious name which actually was just my sign-on name. Went out one a few dates. They didn't work out for me. I think one would have worked but I lied about smoking and when he found out on the date, he really couldn't get passed it since he lost his father to Cancer. So that went up in smoke! But I think on-line dating does work and if he says that he's still cares for you go for it. The man is not stupid! He knows that the majority of people who go on-line lie at one point or another. Guess What? I found my new love right next door to me. He was there all the time and I just never knew it! Who would have thunk it! LOL! I wish you all the luck on you getting the man you love.
2006-09-26 07:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooh, really you should not have lied in the first place, but I have found that you really do get to know someone better on the internet so looks really dont count after all. When you meet someone in real life, the first thing we notice is looks, on the net it is the personality... this is why your man has been able to accept it. Good luck and make it work xxx every relationship is difficult
2006-09-26 08:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by jayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hun... thats a tricky one...
First of all you dont know he is who he says he is?
Secondly talking the talk is not necessairily how he really is.
On a positive note. He obviously makes you feel special... but please dont set your self up for a downfull.
You may not like him in real life either.
Forget about feeling guilty for the lies you have told him as you did this to protect yourself.
Id say if your really 100 sure you wanna give it a go, maybe speak to him on the phone etc.. Words can sometimes be read to please your needs rather than by what they really mean,
Good luck
2006-09-26 08:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mine did, i met my husband on ICQ we have been together 5 years and married for 4,and it is perfect.I dont know why you would want to lie about your name or what you look like, i would think it would be him that was more concerned about wether it would work or not, either way,good luck and grab happiness while you can.the good thing about talking on the Internet is if you are completely honest with each other then you can fall in love with the persons character and personality instead of a persons looks
2006-09-26 12:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by tracej34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all be honest with him..but you should of been honest sooner,long distance relationships are the hardest kind and it takes deep love from both sides to make it work not to mention a whole lotta trust.....you never know he may of told you a pack of lies too....the only thing is to be honest and see what happens but in my experience long distance/on line relationships are not for the faint hearted and don't usually work..i hope your one of the accept ions
2006-09-26 12:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by seeclearlynow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only told those lies to protect yourself, and if he still feels the same after you telling him the truth, yes it can work.
I met my partner online, we've been together over 2 yrs and very happy,good luck.
2006-09-26 07:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by giggles38uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its come back and now your in a corner,all you can do now is be honest if he loves you he should forgive,and a real photo of your self will be another way of showing your honesty
2006-09-26 07:41:06 · answer #8 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well online dating is slightly different to meeting in person.. you may find that face to face you actually do not get on.. your love at the moment may not be real love just meet him be honest and see how things go from there...
Good Luck!!
2006-09-26 07:22:13 · answer #9 · answered by confused 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had an online relationship for a year now, I think it will work.
2006-09-26 07:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋