My husband has been talking to his ex fiance for anywhere from 500- 800 min every month! I have told him that I don't like it and we have had many discussions about it. He says he'll stop but never does! I dont know what to do. It doesn't help that this person also openly admitted that she tried to ruin our marriage because she didn't want us to be together! HELP
2006-09-26 07:18:15 · 20 answers · asked by Angela A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I tried being her friend. We went out just the two of us a couple of times and talked on the phone, but that is when she used me to try to get us to break up.
2006-09-26 07:44:34 · update #1
Sounds like he's more interested in his x than his wife. Whew, that'sa tough one for you. If he chooses to speak with her, there isnt much that you can do........unless you care to send him packing.
I guess, in your shoes, I try to resolve it pleasantly (which it seems you've tried) Then I would be forced to get ugly.
Simply that an X has no place within a marriage, end of story.......
2006-09-26 07:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angela, you need to face this head on. He is still involved with his ex in some shape or form. Take it from me, whether or not he has done anything more than just talk, he is or will be going on to another step. Been there, done that. I became involved with someone who just started out as a friend (while I was married) and we just talked and then the minutes on my plan looked just like your husband's. I unfortunately took the next step. You need to do this because my spouse never really caught on or if he did, he chose to ignore the problem. Don't ignore this. Only by the grace of God did it turn out right. You need to look into this and if he will not stop contact with his ex, you need to make this right with yourself and seek help for you and hopefully he will go along with you or if not, just go yourself but do it soon. It is already not good. Good luck
2006-09-26 19:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must act inmediatly. This is a situation that should not be overlooked. Emotional cheating is as bad or worse as a physical relationship. You have to know firts that this a romatic or platonic relationship. If he is indeed having an emotional relationship with this woman, be calm and confront him about it. If he claims that they are "just friends" then tell him that you want to be friends with her also. Call her too and tell her that you are his wife and wanted to say hello. Be nice, remember that tyu have to have your friends close but your enemies CLOSER!
Keep you man on a short leach and don't leave him alone with this snake. She needs to be aware that your man is not available and that you are putting an eye into the situation.
She is trouble and that amount of talking is serious reason for concern.
Good luck
2006-09-26 14:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but it doesn't sound like he values your relationship. (C'm on, my *mother* and I don't even talk this much, and we're very close and live far away from each other.) It's not a normal thing to do, especially if it involves disregarding your significant other's feelings on this matter. You are in the right to demand he respects your wishes for him to straighten his act. Otherwise, I'm afraid, you'll in for a major disappointment if you go ahead with the marriage. If he doesn't respect you now, and gives in to his compulsions so easily, it will only get worse as time goes by.
2006-09-26 14:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there's only one of two things to do, you may not like the results tho, one is to cut his phone off, 2 is to tell him to stop or your Marriage is over, if he's talking that much to her it's only a matter of time before he "gets" with her be it emotionally or physically, either way you will lose him and if she tried once, nothings to say she won't try again
2006-09-26 14:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by Ray D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how did you get with him from the begining? base on what you saying you should stand up for your self and tell him that he either stop doing what he doing or you'll leave him. just simple solution but hard some time for some one,
now most important of all, if the man doing this to his wife meaning he has no knowledges of what it mean to be marry and commitment are, so base on that wouldn't you think he's not matured enough for you? if you dont see thing that way then down in the future the problems is you not your partner....dont mean to put you down, but at young age we learned but at old age we start to understand.....good luck and hope you'll work it out fine with your husband
2006-09-26 16:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by kevin n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an incredible amount of minutes to be talking to an ex. That's not right. He should have enough respect for you to let go of his past - something is going on. Be careful and know that you have some big decisions to make.
2006-09-26 14:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is with your husband. You need to be firm with him. If he still continues to call her then you need to start your next step. If your husband truely loved you then this would never be a problem to begin with. I'm sorry if that hurt, but sounds like you need a "wake-up call". He is either cheating.. or thinking of cheating. Don't let him be the one to decide. Do it for him. Good luck.
2006-09-26 14:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her in front of him and let them both know how you feel. Tell her to stay the "f" away from your man. And tell him he has a choice to either talk to her or be married to you because right now he is being very disrespectful to your marriage.
2006-09-26 14:36:36 · answer #9 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might help; an e-book titled: Bring Back Lost Love
2006-09-26 15:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋