Do you think that having expectations creates disapointments?

Question

And if you believe some do and some don't, then what's the difference in expectations? If there is?

Answer 1

It does depend on the situation. Obviously, the disappointment depends on whether the actual circumstances fall below or rise above the expectation.

If you're asking about the difference in expectations, I believe the difference is how much one invests in an expectation.

For scenarios like a first date, expectation levels vary with the investment. Some will say that the first date could be the gateway to a meaningful relationship and therefore will have a large emotional investment. Others will take the first date with a grain of salt (because maybe they've experienced many dates that have gone nowhere) and not hold it in such high esteem. Their expectations are low.

I guess you could say to a degree, one's perception can predict his own disappointment.

Answer 2

Yes and no. I guess it depends on the expectation. I mean, if you have an expectation that is a little ridiculous, then sure, it might create a disappointment. But if you have an expectation and you want it and go for it, then I think that whether it happens or not, you shouldn't be disappointed.
So really, in conclusion, no matter what the expectation, you should go for it to help get rid of the disappointment.

Answer 3

I know that when I have expectations of other people, I'm often disappointed. I don't think you're being human if you don't expect certain things in life, but I haven't quite reconciled how to not be disappointed if it doesn't turn out the way I wanted it to. I suppose that's a life long struggle between just being happy with what you have and being grateful if you happen to get more than you expected???? I don't know...we could talk about this one for hours!

Answer 4

I have come to (Believe) that Expectations are always (Blown Out Of Proportion) An (Expectation) is something that someone expects more out of,than what it's worth...When somebody Say's, go see this Movie it's really good....You would expect the Movie to be more, than what was said about it & after watching the Movie you (Expected more from it than what was said about it. Disapiontment is something that was already (Pre-set) in the minds eye about something that was already predtermined by someone-else. rumeoui !!!

Answer 5

of course it creates disappointments but it also creates something to look forward to. the only way that you can find the difference between expectations is what happens afterwards. is the expectation fulfilled or not?

Answer 6

Yes, expectation is the precursor to disappointment. Acid test: Were I to show everyone a living Zalpertu from the planet Ilgotronim absolutely nobody would be "disappointed."

Answer 7

It's good to have realistic expectations about goals, people, and such...unrealistic ones always set the stage for disappointment. Take a step back and see things objectively. Take a yoga class.
; )

Answer 8

Here's my own (originally coined) maxim:

Realization never matches anticipation.

And that's a sword which cuts both ways:
Our expectations for good tings are always greater (and give more pleasure) than the realization of those things.
BUT
Our expectations of bad things are ALSO always greater (and inspire more fear) than the realization of those things.

Well, maybe I'd better make it "ALMOST ALWAYS" - I never use generalizations (Well, ALMOST never.)

Answer 9

Yes I do believe that's the case. To me, it's better to hope than to expect. This way, disappointment would be minimised.

Answer 10

By definition expectations create disappointments. Reducto absurdum: No expectation, no disappointment.