my bf and i are on a break because we fight too much. i think its because we saw each other every day we got sick of each other and found the dumbest stuff to fight about. i didnt want the break but he did. i told him i would stop fighting and he said no because i said that before and it happened again. i said this taught me a much bigger lesson because he might actually leave for good. he still calls and says he loves me but refuses to see me.
today is our anniversary and it will soon be three years of being together. i have a gift for him i got before all this happened and he said he would like to see what it is but doesnt understand why im giving it to him since were on this break. he told me to be nice and he would come back if i dont argue. i've been nice and haven't argued
i told him there are two suprises one is the gift and the other is ???
it's actually me and im going to prove we wont fight. should i give him anything at all? he said he was happy without all the fighting
2006-09-26 07:15:20 · 13 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i am actually in your situation right now, cept i am the one that is tired of all the fighting. i am going to move out from the place my b/f and i live right now in 2 months when the lease is up, cuz that's all we do. i have tried to leave and he says he will change, and he never does. i think we need a break. but i guarantee i will like it better without all the drama too. i would give him a lil more time of "freedom" from the fighting and if he really loves you, he will wanna be back together. keep doing what ur doing, showing him you care and are willing to change and i bet he will give u another chance. if he keeps leading u on months down the road tho, maybe you should reconsider. contact me if u ever need advice....i can try to help since i am "on the other end" of the situation, yaknow?
2006-09-26 07:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by justasweetestthing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some very good advice for you.....RUN!! This guy has control freak written all over him. It takes two to argue and every relationship has some arguing or disagreement. To place all the blame on you and to act like he is some kind of prize to be won if you are "nice and don't argue" makes me think he pulls that kind of stuff just to make him feel like a big man who has the upper hand. Don't take that stuff girl. Have more respect for yourself and .... NO don't give him ANYTHING!!!
Just tell him since he's so happy without seeing you.... than you'll just keep it that way.... Good luck!!!
2006-09-26 07:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look you 2 are going to fight. Period. All relationships have their ups and downs and you 2 are going to fight again. The whole thing is learning how to talk though disagreements. That is communication between couples and you 2 have learned over three years not to talk but to argue. One of you 2 has to give in or your relationship will never work and it dosent always have to be you!!!! He is not always right believe me!!!! It sounds like to me that he is trying to control you by saying these things. I would stay away from him for a while( and yes i know it's going to be hard, but be strong so that he understands you mean business) if he really loves you he will respect you enuf through this. If he dosent believe me their are other greater fish in the sea...........Flo
2006-09-26 07:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats the question?? oh i see it now...if yall are on break then ur technically not even going out so the best thing to do would be to say "happy anniversary" and give a card or something but as for a gift....prob not such a good idea....
2006-09-26 07:19:06 · answer #4 · answered by confused_mexican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit bugging the guy and give him some space. There is nothing more unatractive than a hot clingy girl. If you presure him into getting back together then it wont be him coming back on his own accord, more like just to get you off his back. Let him come back when hes ready and he will actually WANT to put some effort into it.
2006-09-26 07:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by teenypurplebinky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i guess you should just leave him alone,hes just trying to make you fall so low,if there are fights between you guys,then its not your fault alone,even he is responsible to an extent and what are fights basically,they are just the difference of opinion...
i dont think you should give him any gift and show him how desperate you are for him.he wants a relationship on his terms,which is not worth!!just get him out of your life and contact and move on with life!!good luck!!
2006-09-26 08:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never really understood what "on a break" means. Either you're together or you're not. I would give him the gift and give him a choice - either you're together and you're going to work through your problems TOGETHER - or you're done and moving on. :) good luck.
2006-09-26 07:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
carry out a little broken hearts never mend? carry out a little techniques never end... and carry out a little tears never dry??? replaced into it my soup that filled the fly? Get that waiter over right here please, he will beg my forgiveness on his knees! 'tis greater desirable than his heart i will harm on the present time whilst there's a fly in my soup at play.
2016-12-12 15:34:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the gift once you are off break.
2006-09-26 07:17:26 · answer #9 · answered by Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just don't see how you can guarantee that you won't fight anymore, especially if its been over stupid stuff. Perhaps your relationship has just ran its course.
2006-09-26 07:20:27 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋