okay well theres this guy i met and we have kept in touch but it has been like 2 1/2 years that i havent seen him. as of right now he is stationed at 29 palms and he gets mad because of the fact i can't drive down there. i thought everything was going fine until my birthday i mean he was the first one i would of expected for him to call. it took him 3 weeks for him to call bc i wasn't going to do it. why should i call if he didn't!!! the point is that he is always confusing me, during those 3 weeks ive meet to people (guys) and now i don't know what to do, should i get back with him or move on. please help me, especially guys in the military what does it mean.
2006-09-26 07:09:00 · 7 answers · asked by Y@-Net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
in the phone call he blamed me for everything that it was my fault for not callling. and it seems that everything i do to him he does it right back, and im tired of it i mean i love him but hes attitude i can't take it anymore. i try to make the realtionship work i even sent him letters were hes stationed and pics. but he just doen't get it
2006-09-26 07:12:42 · update #1
Not a guy, but did you ever stop to think that he has more important endeavors that monopolize his time and thoughts? Your attitude about not calling him because he didn't call you might be the reason he doesn't call you...perhaps if you lightened up a bit and complained less about what you think he fails to do where you are concerned...he would be more apt to want to hear your voice and might make the time to call you more often. Loving a guy who's away in the military takes a lot of patience, tolerance, and understanding and although there are times you might want him to put your feelings first...he is a soldier and his responsibilities are bigger to him than one little missed b-day call. It could be that everything he has going on right now caused him to forget, then by the time he remembered...you were already acting pissed and selfish about the fact that he forgot to call...so why would he want to call you only to have you gripe at him over the phone. It could be that he simply didn't want to fight with you because he cares about you and didn't want to have that argument cause more distance and conflict in your relationship. Call him and tell him it's okay he forgot and that you don't want to argue but your feelings were hurt. I am sure he'll say he is sorry and you can go from there. Keep him happy to hear from you and happy to talk to you or you'll lose him from all the bickering. Best wishes to you.
2006-09-26 07:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... I'm not a guy in the military but I am a girl that spent some time that way. First, you could have gotten in with an ______ (well, fill in the blank but trust me it isn't positive!). I am sorry but the military seems to have more than their fair share of them. Second, it can be really hard to date outside of the military because you have no idea what he was doing for those three weeks... There are times when we simply can't call people... He may not be able to tell you. And Thirdly, He is a normal guy. You don't need any military background to try to figure that out. he may have just forgotten or moved on... I sorry but I wish you the best of luck!!!
If you are tired of him, then it is time to move on!
2006-09-26 14:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men in general are not the best at building relationships. Men in the military can be very insecure - thinking that you could be out cheating on him and so forth if you don't do what they think you should. They also tend to have alot of connections telling him this and that about you and with you not being there - sometimes they go along with their friends' opinions and can get the wrong idea easily. Men in the military also tend to be very flippant in relationships - going from totally on to you - to completely ignoring you - it's like a form of emotional psychosis or something. Not all military guys are like this but I think alot of them are. They want to either have one stable girl totally 100% devoted to them and their wishes in every way - or be a playboy - it doesn't matter if you've known them 3 days or 6 months - most of the time you'd better be a mover and shaker as far as making commitments in the relationship - and never show any sign that could be perceived as backing away if you really want to make it work - if you're not going to be that 100% - he'll disappear - it's easy enough - and he's got enough on his mind to get you out of it if he wants to. Alot of guys in the military go into it - in order to disappear from life's problems - many times their dad showed them how to be a coward and they repeat history in relationships. It's something many tend to be good at - when it gets tough - they ignore you and move on. I'm not saying this is true of all military guys - but it is a strong tendency with many of them especially younger, lower ranking ones.
2006-09-26 14:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you need to think with your mind and not with your heart. You need to realize that you are a low priority with him, he has other gals ahead of you. Forget about him. Yes it will hurt, but only for a little while. I was lonely when I was in the service and I would look forward to receive mail for my girl friend; mail was very special. The fact that your bf does not call only proves he has no interest in you.
2006-09-26 14:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get back with him?? You are not exactly with him right? Who knows what it means that he did not call..he really does not sound like he was ever really your boyfriend or you ever really had a relationship.
2006-09-26 14:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means that his phone line was disconnected by AT n T
2006-09-26 14:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by ahhhlain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he was out on duty
2006-09-26 14:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by God Is Love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋