My girl is not giving me sex at all,Ihave to make the move all the time,and I'm a great lover,but she said's she tired all the time,but when her friends call to go out she up and gone.But when she comes home from the club or lounge, she want's to have sex.Why not when she just home?And I work way more than her 60hrs a week, have kids with me 70% of the time,clean ,cook take care yard work and I find energy to have sex.What's going on?should I cheat?
2006-09-26 07:04:14 · 17 answers · asked by Da..KINGizHeRe!! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like you are a great guy. She sounds like she's bored at home. When she goes out she drinks and that is what get's her going. Try talking to her before you decide to stray. If she doesn't change or want to change then it's time to move on to some one that appreciates everything you do. Good luck!
2006-09-26 07:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men Always Have Energy For Sex. They Would HaveIt On Their Death Beds If possible. But Dont Cheat On Her For goodness Sakes, Are You A Dumb ***? Talk With Her, Tell Her How You Feel. And Im Sure That The Two Of You Can Work Something Out.
And She Wants Too After being At The Club, Huh, Well At Least She Is Not Cheating On You. Maybe She Needs Visual Stimulation, Try Watching Flix Together.
2006-09-26 07:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by Nakia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is never the answer. Try to do something to get her motivated/aroused. Is there any foreplay involved? Start off by doing something romantic like running her a bath and giving her a massage. Touch or kiss her in those certain special places that you know turns her on. I'm not sure what's going on at the club/lounge but maybe she's turned on by the guys she come across. Ask her what's her fantasy or if there is anything you can do or try to get her sex drive going. Do your research and try a different approach (although I don't know what your approach is). But just try to do certain things to get her back into the mood. I vote for massaging her and touching/kissing the right places. That should get those juices flowing. I don't know how old your kids are, but having kids can put a damper on a woman's sex drive. Believe me, I know! I'm going through it now. You might also want to confront her to find out what's the real reason for her decreased sex drive. Just ask her. Her reasons could be different from mines or anyone elses. Also have you tried or have considered doing a strip tease for her. I'm just throwing out suggestions here.
2006-09-26 07:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No cheating, just not right regardless of how bad you need or want it. She might have some sexual hang ups resulting from a past incident. Have you talked about why she isn't interested? I use to think I had to be drunk to enjoy sex a while back and realized it was to cover my anxietys and fears of sex from an abusive past. Once I had recieved help for that issue, Sex has never been more enjoyable, and more often. Take some time to talk, you never know and try to validate her feelings as real and not to judge. Some people have a hard time dealing with issues like that and alcohol just seems like the typical cover. Hope this helps with a bit of possible insight.
2006-09-26 07:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The withholding of sex is underlying a more serious problem in your relationship. I would surmise a lack of intimacy and feelings of closeness. Also you sound busy, so may not feel like you make enough effort to be with her so she doesn't feel as close as she wants which contributes to how often she is interested. I'd be a bit curious at what goes on at the club/lounge with her friends that makes her so horny since you are not there with her, but that may just be my bad experience talking.
2006-09-26 07:18:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you SURE you are a "great" lover? I mean, sorry dude, but if she's only wanting to have sex with you when she's been drinking then something is obviously missing from the bedroom. NO do not cheat on her if you want to keep her. Talk to her instead of asking questions here, ask HER what she needs to be fulfilled; the answer might surprise you.
2006-09-26 07:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldnt cheat, cheating is messed up. But how do you know what shes doing at the club? What I want to know is why she is wanting to do it AFTER the club. If you really love her, you should sit down and talk with her about it.
2006-09-26 07:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so she goes out with her girlfriends to go clubbing - without you?
get a babysitter and you go, too.
i understand that we girls like to have our time together, but the two of you need time for yourselves as well. and i'm not talking at home.
i think the two of you need a date night at least once or twice a month. get a sitter and go. be HER MAN for the night.
people in town might think she's single if she's always with her girlfriends.
2006-09-26 08:15:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should respect her wishes and no dont cheat thats going way to far love and be a little more romatic , bring her some flowers,light a candle or two,maybe even a bubble bath then try ur move...
2006-09-26 07:11:18 · answer #9 · answered by monica a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER RESOLVE A PROBLEM WITH CHEATING!!!!
do you love youre girl? if so than you need to let her know how you feel and tell her that shes depriving you and how bad it makes you feel when she goes out than comes back and wants it... let her know that you feel like youre almost about to cheat but you dont want to...tell her that you need her. if you have to give her an altimatum.....always works..just please dont cheat break up with her if you feel yo need it that bad
2006-09-26 07:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋