i had a fling with a guy about 5years ago. i do still like him as a friend and his new wife and i get along fine. the problem is that every time i talk to him he tells me how much he loves me and always will. his wife does not care and he has done this in front of her. i like both of them, but he needs to foccus on her and not me don't you think
2006-09-26 06:57:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Groovy! It sounds like the couple is honest with each other! I don't think you need to worry about a thing :)
2006-09-26 07:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by AntiDisEstablishmentTarianism 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is appreciative of the important part of his life that you had. Take the honor and back off, way off.
I do recall something that happened to me several years ago. I was dating two girls at the same time. Then one day I made a decision, affirmed that my chosen one wanted me for sure, then broke it off with the other girl. It was really, really hard because I loved them both (darned laws against polygamy). Several years later we were at a theme park and there, standing alone at the entrance, somehow coming in at almost the same time, was the other girl. Well, they got together and decided to do the whole park. I tagged along, fetched food and drink, careful as a butler before royalty in how I dispensed it and was on 'pins and needles' the whole day long. They still laugh about it today, decades later.
Don't put yourself in that spot any more than you have to.
2006-09-26 07:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking either this is a 3some in the making or a dysfunctional marriage. I mean I still love my first even though she's now married, but would never say that to her out of respect because it is more of a care that she's healthy and happy than anything romantic since we traveled that road and it didn't work out. He needs to focus on his "new" marriage (under 5 years has highest rates of divorce) and anything coming out of this friendship doesn't sound healthy for you either.
2006-09-26 07:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the wife dosent care then they are not happy any more because he has always loved u i think that u should give him a chance because may be he is your other half and u are going to let it go away with someone that dosent even care.
2006-09-26 07:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah,maybe you should talk to him and tell him that you don't want to hear these words any more, especially not in front of his wife.Tell him that he needs to focus on her.Or maybe you give him some reason so he acts like this???????Think about it.Best wishes.
2006-09-26 07:01:29 · answer #5 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you - and I think the best way to do this is for you to find a boyfriend and see less of your friend. You certainly don't want to be in the middle of their marriage.
2006-09-26 07:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by RT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy friend needs to get a life and so do u ,how would u like for a guy to do this to u.in front of her u need to tell this guy that u are something that happen that was great in his life but to u hes nothing but a blob and grow up that he needs to see what he has in front of him not behind him....................
2006-09-26 07:06:27 · answer #7 · answered by monica a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell them both to go away, that isn't healthy for anyone involved.
2006-09-26 06:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away frm them they'll jus cause u trouble.tell em u dont wanna kno.
2006-09-26 07:01:18 · answer #9 · answered by soft heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you appreciate his affection, but it makes you nervous because it's inappropriate and you value their friendship too much to jeapordize it over a silly misunderstanding.
2006-09-26 07:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by shiara_blade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋