My bf has a cousin who is a drummer in a band and lately we have been hanging out him more often. Now i find my self crushing on him. He doesnot know this. What should i do?? should i tell my bf or my crush? what if i look dumb? i am so confused !!!
2006-09-26 06:47:34 · 24 answers · asked by michelle r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is why people date.. so they can find out whether or not the person they are dating is the person they want to stay with forever. I'd seriously consider whether or not your current boyfriend is or is not the person you want to stay with. It's better to break up with him now than to wait until you're seriously involved.
HOWEVER.. this could just be a passing thing. Do you feel like this crush is getting serious? If not, then don't worry about it. We all find oursevles attracted to people at various times in our lives. (With our without significant others). If it's becoming an obsession, though, your heart might be trying to tell you something.
one thing I'd consider if I were you, is if the cousin doesn't reciprocate your feelings, you may find yourself without anyone at all.
2006-09-26 06:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk with your bf. Be frank, but don't tell him about your crush, just that you don't have feelings for him anymore and want to be friends. If the other guy is interested, he may talk to you after the relationship with his cousin is over.
2006-09-26 06:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by elgil 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make the decision, bf or cousin. It is very wrong to like both that is cheating and unfaithful. One or the other it not right or fair to any of you. In the first place it is very wrong out of you to go for your bf cousin or friend for that matter.
2006-09-26 07:09:41 · answer #3 · answered by Cherokee285 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes you human to notice attractive people. As long as it remains just a crush, there is nothing wrong with it. My girlfriend and I joke around all the time about each others friends. She has 1 friend that is an absolute fox. That doesn't meen I am any less attracted to my girlfriend. I have friends who she finds attractive but, I trust her.
2006-09-26 06:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your always going to have little "crushes" on people just don't take it to the next step. Is he worth losing your man over? think about it. Your not dead, your going to find many men attractive. Its normal. Funny though, I met my boyfriends cousin whos a cop..He looks just like him but older mmm he was hot! haha
2006-09-26 06:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married my cousin. We have three kids, a truck driver, a steel worker and a professional football player. They are the most beautiful women youd ever want to meet.
2006-09-26 06:50:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on wether or not you really like ur bf.If you love ur bf then i wouldnt let the crush on his cousin get outta hand. its probably a phase. and its normal for u to feel attracted to other people just dont act on it if u love ur bf.
2006-09-26 06:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by PyroPixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crushes last for so short but can feel sooo powerful! give it time and see how you feel....maybe meanwhile take a closer look at your relationship now..see how things turn out..belive me you'll see if this cousin is worth it.
2006-09-26 06:51:31 · answer #8 · answered by All Of the Above 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl do you luv your BF? if yes then no you should keep it to your self! but if no then Dump him for his cuz! If you can't choose then leave both of them there is pleaty other guys out in this world.
2006-09-26 06:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself 100 lashes with whip then bathe in Holy Water.
2006-09-26 06:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋