Did both of you have good jobs before?? Did money become really tight??? Just explain how everything worked out, please!!!
2006-09-26 06:44:07 · 11 answers · asked by **What??** 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Money was really tight. We had to re-budget. Once we re-worked how we spent money and what we spent it on, things were much better. We still don't have any spare cash, but our stay-at-home quality time is much, much better! :-) Use this opportunity to grow closer together in this trial. Things will all work out. You just need to be more careful with the money. Write out a spending guideline and stick to it. :-) Good luck!
2006-09-26 06:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by Luckiest_Wife_EVER 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only works out when both agree. The father wants to continue to work for the family and the mom wants to stay home and take care of the kid(s). Yes, money is less which cuts down on a lot.
All my friends ended up going back to work because the fathers were not really fair with the money and money seemed to always be an issue. My female friends enjoyed returning back to work and would have it no other way.
None of my friends are stay at home mothers even though at times we think about it but would not do it.
P.S. Most of us are divorced now, we are glad that we did not give up our jobs. Also, our kids LOVED their daycare teacher and daycare friends.
Best of luck !
2006-09-26 13:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were both working full time good jobs when I got pregnant. He made $2500 a month bring home and I made $2000 per month bring home. For being 23 and no kids that was GREAT! When I got pregnant and went off of work for early leave for complication I took a lay off so I could fine unemplyment. I still made $300 per week on umemployment so It wasnt horrible but then it stopped and I still wasnt realy to go back to work. So I took a part time position in the town where I live so I am close to him while he is at babysitter. And things are much harder now! But we have what we need and get a few things here and there that we dont need. Its ok you just juggle a little more and learn self control!
2006-09-28 12:18:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok we were together for about 6 years before children , i worked two jobs and college and he worked one job, things WERE good and not that bad but when i had my first at 21 the doctors said i had to stay home i had a very bad pregnacy and then came my second i was 23 and my 3rd and final because im fixed now lol at 28 ive been a stay at home mom since the first one.Yes its very hard and tight but since then my hubby has got a better job and im still not working and NO i dont collect any help what so ever i have nothing against it but i just thought you should know that , i sold avion for a while and my family does help if need be.my kids are now 9,8,and 4 as long as you and your hubby talk about things and dont let the money get in the way of you guys youll be fine, just remember talk to each other it help.
2006-09-26 13:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by lmcm1975 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I made about 35 k a year, hubby makes about 62k a year. when it was just my son it wasnt bad,lol til I got pregnant 5 months after my son was born, 2 in diapers!
It's not to bad most of the time. What we did was this before the baby was born.
For 6 months we practiced living on his income alone and used my income for savings and baby things.
Alot of people can do it, but it requires a lot of sacrafice to do it. we dont have cable, we have basic phone service, i dont have a cell plan, just prepay. I buy clothes at the consignment shop, I buy generic food too.
If you want it, you can attain that status. ONLY thing that sucked, when I got pregnant the 2nd time, we had to buy a bigger car, I got a minivan with a carpayment ( sigh ) my other car was 2 payments from being paid off,lol.
MY we dont spend alot on gas for the car cause my hubby works from home, so that cuts down on that expense.
I personally donot believe in daycares. you have kids to raise them, not someone else. daycares are so expensive in my area that it wasnt worth it and to tell you the truth, not even a thought
good luck
2006-09-26 13:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by wilowdreams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I worked until I was 6 months pregnant and then we moved to another state. We decided I would stay home when the baby was born and he would work. She is 3 and we're still doing the same thing(except we moved back home). It is tight as far as money, we have no extra money at all. We pay all our bills but we have very little money for 'fun' things(movies, exprensive dinners). It can work it jsut depends on what you are willing to give up and if you can pay all your bills with one persons paycheck. Good Luck!
2006-09-26 13:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am pregnant now and my husband work 10 hrs a day. I am getting a at home job being a reservation receptionist. I hope this works out okay and hope it makes the money easier. I know that juggling a baby and work is hard but at least I can be at home.
2006-09-26 13:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by CMA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay at home Dad here and I had a business before but let it all go to stay home with the now 3 kids and I love it for the most part .
2006-09-28 09:53:42 · answer #8 · answered by mmmmmmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a descent job before. Our income was cut almost in half. It has been tight, but manageable. We have cut back on vacations and we have older cars. We avoid credit cards like the plague. We pay cash for everything, so that we don't live above our means. It's doable, but hard.
2006-09-26 13:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes it has became really tight but I'd rather give up money and finner things in life then not to be with my kid's I believe its better for them to be with me then in daycare all day.
2006-09-26 13:48:48 · answer #10 · answered by Josie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋