I am a sophomore in college living with my best friend. I moved out of the dorms (where I had free room and board) to live with her in an apartment, but she was dishonest with me about her financial troubles and now I'm the ONLY one in the house who ever buys groceries for the two of us. And she is pledging for a sorority and she yells at me for not following the organization's rules, but I'm not the one pledging, she is. I can't handle the whole sorority thing anymore--it is just too much. AND I can't pay my bills anymore because she keeps mooching and won't pay me back. I want to move out and get back into the dorms at the end of the semester, but I don't want to just leave her in an expensive apartment with no roommate. Any ideas on how to deal with the situation without ruining our friendship?
2006-09-26 06:43:26 · 4 answers · asked by im_just_me_612 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is a hard situation.
You need to talk to her and let her know what is going on. You need to be direct and tell her how you are affected by her actions.
It's difficult because you are friends, but she isn't showing you friendship. It's also hard because it deals with money and stuff.
If you want to move back on campus, you should make up your mind and let her know you'll be moving back after this semester. Let her know it is a combination of money and living problems. Your happiness is what is important. College is too short to be unhappy.
I have had my fair share of uncompatible roomates and I know what you are going through. You need to get out of it ASAP for your health and well being.
Good luck.
2006-09-26 17:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi Kitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is going to be really hard to deal with. I think that the best way to maintain your friendship is by being honest. Lying or bending the truth always causes tons of problems as I'm sure you know since you have been at the receiving end of that from her. You will just have to explain to her that you can't pick up her bill all of the time and that she is going to have to be more responsible if you guys are going to keep living together and if not you have to move back to the dorms. I think it would probably be best to just go back to the dorms for your own sanity but I understand that you are concerned about her too. You might try helping her find another roomate but be sure to warn them about her perplexing habits. I'm sure there is someone out there that can handle her. It is just hard when you are friends because you don't want to hurt their feelings. I am going through the same thing (on a much smaller scale) because I just moved into a dorm with my best friend and it is hard to find that balance between being accomodating and letting them run your life. Good luck!
2006-09-26 14:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by cougar princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, she wasn't acting like a real friend if she lied to you. And she did lie. She is having you help foot her bill while she's taking advantage of the social scene. I"d move back to the dorms, tell her that if she IS your friend, she would understand why. College is expensive and you have to watch where your funds go. Looks like it's time to watch out for #1. Good luck!
2006-09-26 13:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by Christina C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE OUT.
I lost my closest friend from high school because we lived together. Money was the biggest fight, but she also stole from me, and we didn't get along anymore after about 6 months.
2006-09-26 13:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋