my boyfriend and i are on this break because he is tired of fighting. it's been a while now. we still talk and say i love you but he refuses to see me.
today is our anniversary and i told him i have a gift for him because i got it a long time ago before anything happened. he said he would like to see what it is, meaning he will come over to see. he said if im nice to him and dont argue with him he will come back to me. that's what ive been doing for a while.
i told him he has two suprises. one is the gift and the other is me and that i will stop fighting with him. he said he was happy without all the fighting. if i love him i will truly stop figthing with him over stupid ****. he needs to trust me.
will he take me back or is he just holding onto me because he doesnt want to be alone right now?????
2006-09-26 06:43:17 · 12 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
NOTE: i didnt tell him the other suprise is me yet. i want to tell him in person.
to be honest i think it is because we saw each other every single day and we just got annoyed with one another so we started fighting over the dumbest crap. if we dont spend every single day together we wont fight and its not me changing for the worse..its me changing for the better!!!
2006-09-26 06:43:55 · update #1
PEOPLE SAY DONT BE NEEDY..SHOULD I NOT GIVE HIM ANYTHING AT ALL?
2006-09-26 06:44:26 · update #2
IT WILL BE THREE YEARS IN DECEMBER..
2006-09-26 06:46:22 · update #3
3 years is a long time. if he truly loves you trust me it won't be that easy for him to walk away. i believe him, i think he was tired of the fighting and needed time to think..Ive made my man get to that point many times but he never wanted a seperation. Your doing everything right, tell him you'll change, if he doesn't believe it then it's his lose. When you do give him this gift do NOT be needy then he will take advantage of you. As per your last question so we think he is just holding onto you because he doesn't want to be alone now? only you can answer that hun. You know him we don't. good luck
2006-09-26 07:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you recognize that you have the arguing problem - what you need to figure out is if it is just your boyfriend that makes you argue (does he bait you into it) or are you going to pick fights with your next boyfriend too?
Change is tough - but you need to think long and hard about why you argue and making a huge effort to be a more positive person.
Good luck!
2006-09-26 06:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by RT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 02:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by rhona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you????
it sounds pretty obvious to me, he is tired of fighting with you,, over what we all can only guess, Sex isnt going to win him back although he probably wont hesitate to do it,
but if he hates the fighting then he hates the fighting, 3 years 10 years it doesnt matter
2006-09-26 07:11:15 · answer #4 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of that relationship. It takes more than one person to have an argument or fight, and it's definitely not all your fault. It sounds like to me he's just keeping you around until he finds something better.
And if he didn't get you anything for you anniversary and you got him something... I would take it back and get my money back and spend on myself........
2006-09-26 06:47:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound to me like your trying to hang onto something that no longer is there...Sorry just from what you said. Good luck
You should not have to change who you are for anybody. As well as he should not change for anyone. People are who they are. If you try to be something your not you can end up being very unhappy.
2006-09-26 06:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by sabbycat76 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but this just all sounds bad to me. He is being manipulative and you are letting him. You don't put conditions on LOVE. It is unconditional. If you stop fighting with me, I will love you. This is what he is telling you. This does not work!!!
2006-09-26 06:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by SweetD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's fed up with the fighting,he's stayin away from u and if u rili do love him u have2stop that or u'll end up losing him.
2006-09-26 06:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by soft heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that was a mouthful...
Seems like you have it all figured out for yourself
Just take your own advice and try your best not to fight
2006-09-26 06:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by Hex W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what happens in the future if this relationship goes somewhere. what if you get married and live together...first person you see in the morning is his and last person he sees at night is you....something's clearly not right here.
2006-09-26 06:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by tell_me_whos_sleeping_with_who 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋