About how fat I am ,and how stupid I am,and how much of a b**ch I am,and how I deserve no respect and not one red cent from him,and even though I do all the cooking,cleaning,laundry,errands,take care of and teach our daughter,and ALL the work in the bedroom,I'm still worthless and he doesn't know why he's with me.....So perhaps,when I lose all the extra weight and go back and get my diploma,and get a stable,well paying job,and find someone who wants to open doors for me and treat me like a lady,and make at least an effort to please me in the bedroom..........I should just drop his *ss!!!!.................What do all of you think about that?
2006-09-26 06:36:01 · 25 answers · asked by Direktor 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you're right, now get up and do something about it.
2006-09-26 06:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Really what is it you want...sympathy, encouragement or help in getting out and away from the position you're in...You know deep down inside that these kinds of relationships aren't good for either person involved...so if you can't or won't find a way out of this, for yourself, or you can't do it for the daughter that you're also teaching this behavior to, and who will be next on his list by the way, than do it for the reason that you aren't willing to spend the rest of your life living with some one who has nothing to give you except his bad temper, ill-mannered abusive behavior...and by the way, remember you may have picked him in the beginning but he has either changed, or maybe you have..it doesn't matter what was, only what it is like now, today, I suspect this has been ongoing and if that's the case, you and your daughter should both get going too...There's always a way if it's what you need and want...a situation like this can not be endured.
2006-09-26 07:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by carouselkate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET RID OF HIM FAST!!!!!! You don't need to hear that bull all the time. You deserve better. Your daughter doesn't need to hear that stuff either. He doesn't respect you leave! Don't wait to find someone else just go. Start calling him what he calls you and see how he likes it. I bet that it will be different then. I'm not saying that he will stop what he is doing but it will show him what it feels like. When heis at work pack all of you and your daughters things and leave. Show him that he can't treat you like that. Think of your daughter before anyone else she is going to think that's the way she should be treated when she get's a boyfriend and that's the last thing you want to happen. Good luck
2006-09-26 06:46:34 · answer #3 · answered by lem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Preach on sister!!! I know how you feel. Men can be such jerks sometimes. They have no clue what we as women go through on a daily basis. All the cooking, cleaning, running the kids to and fro...and then they want us to be sexy for them and be at their service whenever they call. Here's a thought, just once I would like my husband to say, "Honey sit and relax and I will take care of everything." Oh yeah, and whatever happened to romance??? Maybe if they would help out more, we wouldn't be so tired and gripey all the time! Just a little something for all you men out there to think about.
As far as whether you should stay or go, if it is as bad as you say it is, leave. You can make it on your own. It might be hard at first, but you can do it. You just need to keep telling yourself you are a beautiful person with lots to offer and then go out there and conquer the world.
P.S. I apologize for the few men out there who are considerate of their woman's thoughts, feelings, and needs. You should be rewarded! It is just sad that there are so few out there.
2006-09-26 06:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by it's just me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl it's all up to you if that what you settle for what can i do or tell you that would make a difference. but listen anyway you should not let no one or anyone be little you. mother,brother,sister,especially husband he need to be reminded of for better or for worse and again i can tell you what you would need to do but i doubt if you would do well here goes, if you want to be happy tell him how you feel about the remarks and see if he will change if he don't well just maybe we made the wrong decision or wrong mate because he might not know if what he says hurt your feeling have you ever asked him to stop.some husband get caught up in certain situations and forget that all they have to do is ask or tell you what they don't like all he have to do is say honey you have gained a little weight lets try a workout plan some men just Cristie so tell the man what bothers you if you and see if that helps if not read the body of paragraph............cw
2006-09-26 08:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by Charolette W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, no matter what your size is or whatever. You are still beautiful. Don't let him tear you down. You need to get a divorce from him. You have control over your own life. God gave you that. No woman deserves to be controlled by her husband. No person in this world deserves to be controlled!!! But you do need to do those things he said only because as a woman that's what you need to do. Not just because he said it. Just get on your feet and get the hell away from THAT useless bastard that you chose for a husband. And when you leave don't look back, **** him!!!
2006-09-26 06:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by perfectanjyl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey check out my question in singles and dating. I actually had a guy say horrible things to me, I dumped him and then I ****** his little brother. Son of a *****.
Get someone else. If he's paying the bills ay nothing and enjoy yourself with the other guy until you get on your own two feet. Use his ***. And by all means girl work it out, lose the weight, find a plan, gain that self respect and dump that man.
2006-09-26 06:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jazz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you will accomplish your goal alot sooner if you drop his @** now. Why would you want to hear his mouth while you are trying to better yourself? I would get rid of him fast, especially since you have a daughter. You do not want her to find a man who treats her like that. I hope you are not going to lose weight and do all those things just for your husband's benefit. Believe me, there are plenty of men out there who want a good woman and it has nothing to do with their weight. Good luck and GOD bless you. The sooner he is gone, the quicker you can enjoy your life with your daughter.
2006-09-26 06:42:30 · answer #8 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that all the women reading this will agree with you
you should drop him, but before you do go to back to school
and leave him once you get a job
if you take a loan for school make sure that it stated on the divorce that he is to pay for the reimbursement
2006-09-26 06:45:05 · answer #9 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I think that's silly. Why wait until you loose your weight, get your diploma, etc. to drop him? Do it NOW. If you stay with him you will never accomplish those things that you want so bad, because he is abusing you mentally. You need to have a clear mind to go on in life and understand that you are what you want to be.
GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP NOW!
2006-09-26 06:40:58 · answer #10 · answered by cuteboymom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it. Don't waste time, do it NOW. No woman deserves to be treated like that. It is a horrible environment for your daughter as well. You don't want her growing up thinking this is normal treatment do you? He belittles you and puts you down to make you feel bad about yourself and make himself feel better. He secretly loves it that you are overweight and buy into all his criticism because he thinks it makes you stay with him. Love yourself and your daughter. Prove this fool wrong and get a life for yourself!
2006-09-26 06:39:33 · answer #11 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋