How often do you fight with your spouse and what is it over? Does it ever get resolved and if not how do you deal with it? How much arguing is too much and how much is normal? We argue about the same things and they never seem to get resolved. Its like a little bit gets resolved each time but not enough to make the issue go away.
2006-09-26 06:34:35 · 14 answers · asked by mommy_2_little_man 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-09-26 12:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by HBinParis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arguing just sucks esp the same thing over and over the past is the past but it seems to me that there is always an underling issue. You know what is too much . maybe try using a different approach try not too give the same expected answer or just laugh and walk away ignore . every time u get angry there is a sickness inside ready to occur. We give too much energy on trivial matters. don't allow anyone to take so much from you as you need that energy for more positive things. yoga and breathing techniques help channel the good energy .Don't participate in someone Else's madness. or step out of the problem and into the solution. deep down you know what needs to be done .look into the goddess in you .. I hope this gives you at least an idea. good luck.
2006-09-26 13:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by tcorbai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same with my husband and I. When we fight its about the same thing everytime and there is no real solution to it. We can go months without the fight and then we'll fight about it for a week. WE have no 'average' amount of times we fight. Sometimes i think he fights with me so we'll make up ;) I think each couple has their own normal for fighting though. Some fight constantly, others rarely. I guess it depends on what the fight is about and why it doesn't get resolved. Good Luck!
2006-09-26 13:39:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About every 3 months. It's always about different things and we always make sure it gets resolved. If we can't talk it out and fix it, we find someone who can. Fighting is NEVER good. If you have a problem, try to stay calm and discuss it without being volatile. Be mature about life. There will always be things you disagree on, what counts is how to deal with those. If you can't fix the issue, see your pastor, therapist or marriage councilor. Any marriage worth having is work.
2006-09-26 13:38:37 · answer #4 · answered by Luckiest_Wife_EVER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seldom fight with my wife. When we do, it is almost always over something very small and just me complaining about some little piece of housework that didn't get done. And it is mostly because I was in a bad mood anyway and normally something that wouldn't bother me. If your issues do not get resolved then they are probably personality traits of that particular person and you know you can never change another person. Some things you just have to get used to.
2006-09-26 13:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by Cybeq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it all depends on what you're fighting about. if its stupid little things that keep coming up, sounds like you need to spend some time apart. go hang out with your friends and they do the same thing. give each other a chance to miss one another and something to talk about. on big issues you have to meet each other half way. unless you dont resolve it completely just so you can argue about it again to have "make-up sex"
2006-09-26 13:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by T9000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A fight? Probably once a month or two..and argument once every 2 weeks....and they get resolved the day of. Its our little rule, communication is key
I think that as your relationship being to grow you expect your spouse to "know better" so if asked a question that you believe he would've known the answer to you get mad and that in it self stirs and argument. I also read some where that arguments are really bad, it means that your relationship is growing, its the way you handle the arguments that's bad.
2006-09-26 13:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we argue and most of the time it has to do with whats missing out of the fridge after 2 days of going food shopping. My man and my son are like 2 little kids....well he ate this and he ate that...and i got nothing....blah blah....Money is not an issue with me,,,if we need more of something then i will get it. They should be arguing with eachother...im tired of hearing it. Or we argue over the fact that my man is online too much,,,and im getting tired of it.Its over little things and we always seem to manage to get through it. But the fact that he gets on my son way too much over dumb **** pisses me off. I hate being in the middle of them two,,and i shouldnt have to be.
2006-09-26 13:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We dont have big fights. But we do disagee eveyonce in awhile. Its healthy to fight some times as long as you dont hit the person or call your spouse names. I been maried 11 years.And I can say I never hit or called my wife any bad names in that time. You can forgive that person for calling you names. But you can never take that name back. Thats forever.
2006-09-26 13:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by lets talk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and say okay lets get to the bottom of this issue, and don't get up until you either agree or agree to disagree.
2006-09-26 13:37:11 · answer #10 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋