my boyfriend and i are on this break because he is tired of fighting. it's been a while now. we still talk and say i love you but he refuses to see me.
today is our anniversary it is almost three yrs. and i told him i have a gift for him because i got it a long time ago before anything happened. he said he would like to see what it is, meaning he will come over to see. he said if im nice to him and dont argue with him he will come back to me. that's what ive been doing for a while.
i told him he has two suprises. one is the gift and the other is me and that i will stop fighting with him. he said he was happy without all the fighting. if i love him i will truly stop figthing with him over stupid ****. he needs to trust me.
will he take me back or is he just holding onto me because he doesnt want to be alone right now?????
NOTE: i didnt tell him the other suprise is me yet. i want to tell him in person.
to be honest i think it is because we saw each other every single day
2006-09-26 06:28:35 · 7 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its stupid things we fight over that can just be left alone. they arent important. we need to realize life is short and we shouldn't fight over stupid little things. he said i promised him before but it happened again. im telling him to trust me now and that it wont ever happen. he always forgave before but this time he is threatening to leave me for good, it knocked sense into me and he wont give me the chance to prove i can change for the better.
2006-09-26 06:32:44 · update #1
MANY PEOPLE SAY DONT BE NEEDY SHOULD I NOT GIVE HIM THE GIFT LET ALONE ME???
2006-09-26 06:37:14 · update #2
Well sweety, men hate fighting. Ive been with my man years and yes, you shouldn’t fight over stupid pointless stuff. I think he just needed time to figure out what to do. 3 years is a long time, im sure it’s not over. I am not sure why your fighting with him, are you insecure? Do you have trust issues? You didn’t state that, that was my problem. He seems like a good guy, but he will only take so much. If you have a problem within yourself you should see a shrink that’s what I do and trust me it helps. You don’t want to loose him, just do what he is asking. Stop fighting with him. Whenever you feel your going to get upset take a deep breath, if you have to walk away for a few moments do so. Just stop yourself that’s what I do.
When he comes over and gets your gift, don’t be too needy, just keep a little distance, don’t bring up that your going to change, make him bring it up. You have already told him you would stop. He probably doesn’t want to see you because it’s too hard to him. Be strong. You can stop the fighting. Good luck!
2006-09-26 06:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the arguing means that your relationship is getting better and better because if you dont argue then what kind of relationship would you have.anit no relationship perfect. uhm... to me i think the present is nice. I always tell my boyfriend that is there gift. uhm.. if he comes back to you then he loves you girl it is that he dont want to be fighting all the time. I mean its okay to argue but not 24/7. you got a good man gurl trust me just do right and try not to fuss over stupid **** for real because that will probally drive him aways just keep it real sit and talk to him and yall could buy each other promise rings and set rules for them like i promise not to argue or fight. That would probally work well i hope that this works for you; Much love sierra hope this helps.
2006-09-26 13:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by SiSi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and you want him back, try not to fight with him. Of course it is not only your faul. For fighting you need to be 2 of you but well...try to be patient and positive. I think he loves you as well and seems that he miss you.
Give yourself another opportunity talk together and promise you won't fight so much('cause Im sure you will- it is normal)
give him the present and give him you as well :) give it another try if its worth of it. If it doesn't work you can always let it be.
2006-09-26 13:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by Monika H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just treat him nice when he comes around, But don't be so needy, Just be your self, Don't worry what he'll do or don't. But yeah stop fighting and be nice to him and see how things are between you and him.
2006-09-26 13:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by Alisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to move on, and find someone that likes to fight
2006-09-26 13:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by john b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no move on and see new people you will grow out if it.
2006-09-26 13:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by gabe1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's screwing with you. Don't sit around waiting for him.
2006-09-26 13:32:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋