This guy is like in his 50's/60's. When he first came here 3 years ago, he made it clear that he wanted to have lunch with me but I made it obvious that I wasn't interested and had a b/f. He left me alone. But every once in a while, he would offer me jewelry, toys for my kid, expensive perfumes in which I refused all. A month ago, he kept trying to persuade me into letting him setup a trust fund for my daughter in which again i said "No Thanks!" Today, he has secretly told me that he is leaving the company to go to some island and he wants to help someone before he leaves and he chose to help me by helping me get a car, paying school tuition, or living in one of his paid for houses. To get him off my back, I told him i'll think about it. This guy is old fashioned, a complete gentleman, and has a good family background. Is this the result of his generosity? I don't think he would offer this to just anyone. A friend told me it seems he wants to be my "sugar daddy". You think?
2006-09-26 06:27:12 · 35 answers · asked by melcar12345 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Anything that's too good to be true, usually is JUST that. Let him know you appreciate his kind gestures, but that you need to stand on your own two feet. I highly doubt he wants to give and not receive ANYthing in return. Accept a gift and he'll probably be on your back for the rest of your life, no matter WHERE he moves... So just stick with your initial response!
2006-09-26 06:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend is right. He wants to be your sugar daddy. But if you take him up on his offer, are you willing to give him what he is bound to ask for. Think about it, he has spent 3 years trying to get some where with you. He has just changed his strategy.
Say no Thank You. And stay away from this guy for your own good. Nothing like this comes with out a price tag.
2006-09-26 06:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is obviously, looking for someone to control, and most controling men start out by doing things for you, that u may not be able at that time to do for yourself. in doing so, he wants you to feel like he made u somthing important and he is the one that is empowered you. This is his thinking. In other words he wants to be the center of attention for you. And as I see he's working very hard to get your attention and very quickly.
More importantly, if you feel that he is not taking no for an answer, you may have a bigger problem, then him just being a surger daddy?
2006-09-26 06:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by dreamangel20051 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would investigate a little more before you say anything. I had someone like that one time, but I was 16 and I finally had to quit my job because he wouldn't leave me alone. But seriously, I would ask other co-workers about him and if you can find out if he has ever been married and find out what his family back ground is like. And be afraid to ask him questions about where this Island is and if he ever plans to return.
2006-09-26 06:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by Laura C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is lonely and hasn't got any family.has he had any children of his own if not.then maybe it is just him being generous. i don't think he wants to be your sugar daddy.i really think that he knows that you would not use him as there re many girls who would love to be in your boat and they would take,take,take.why don't you talk to him and find out why he wants to help you and your family out.ask him has he got family if he hasn't then maybe he just see you as a daughter he never had.he is old and maybe he is looking back over his life and notice what he could of had when he was young.this guy is in his 50s/60s maybe he see's that he has not got long left and wants to see you enjoy his money before he dies.as you might get s shock when he dies cos if he has no family he could leave it all to you and your family.so plzs sit down and talk ti him about why he is doing this.
good luck
2006-09-26 06:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by twinmum1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look a gift horse in the mouth, but be clear to him - tell him that, while his generosity is commendable, you aren't comfortable with the implied obligation.
Tell him that a relationship with you will never happen and sex is certainly not going to happen; if he still makes offers, he has been duly warned and there will never be a misunderstanding if he makes a play at you later on. Accept gifts if you please, but regardless, he knows the score.
2006-09-26 06:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people have different reasons for everything they do so don't jump to conclusions... maybe he doesn't have kids and just wants that whole feeling of helping someone out and you're that lucky one... don't be too proud to accept help if you really do need any of it (though i'd think twice about the house)...
but i guess the concern is whether he expects something back, in which case you should probably clear it up with him... just ask him why he is so predisposed towards helping you and whether he expects anything in return. just having him say the word "no" will make him believe "no" even if he had a "kinda maybe" thought in the back of his mind... and it gives you something to refer back to if he ever does ask for something in return.
2006-09-26 06:36:30 · answer #7 · answered by lingt69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound to good to be true. What about you tell him you will be happy to accept his offer if he will sign a notarized letter that he is doing this for no other reason then philanthropically and there are no expectations on his part for any form of return payment. See what he says and then make a decision.
2006-09-26 06:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by roeskats 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This definitely sounds like he is pursuing a sugar momma. Stick to your guns. It is nice to offer, but you have a father and a boyfriend.
2006-09-26 06:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by croc hunter fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's nice that he often you all these things but nothing is for free in this world, he is going to want some before he leaves.
2006-09-26 06:32:12 · answer #10 · answered by alh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋