I've not long lost my dad how can i get over him life just seem worthless?

Question

i lost my dad to sucide how does anyone bounce back from that i cant sleep and when i do i see his face everyone says im being strong but thats just a front for my mum and brother.

Answer 1

You will never get over him. Stay strong for your Mom. She needs you. Get counciling. It will help.

Answer 2

Everyone mourns the loss of a loved differently. Time is the best healer.

Each day you will feel a little less sad, but you cannot rush it. You must cry. You must have memories. You must work through all of your emotions.

If you must be strong for your mum, find someone else to cry with.

The most important thing is to try to remember that if your dad could tell you, he would say don't be sad sweetheart. I am in a good place, and I want you to live a happy life. We will see each other again before you know it.

Answer 3

I lost my Dad about 5 years ago to cancer, at first it was really hard, but it got better, but i still have really bad days. You can't be strong for others without hurting yourself, there is free grief counseling in your area, you need to go, and the rest of your family might need to as well. This is no time to be a hero, or else it will be worse, the sooner you get help grieving the sooner you will feel better

Answer 4

I understand some of your pain. You should see your doctor about getting some sleeping medication, you should also look into seeing a therapist. It will help. You can't be strong for your mom and brother. You need to support yourself right now. They have to do the same for themselves. Nothing is wrong with getting outside help when you are going through a traumatic situation.

Answer 5

I think losing someone to suicide is the worst thing that can happen to you, even worse than a murder. There's not really a way to get over this. I have friends who lost parents 10-15 years ago in this manner and they are still wrought over it.

Your best thing to do is join a support group of people who are going through the same thing or see a counselor. Remember this isn't your fault. And you owe it to yourself to take care of you.

Answer 6

You can't "get over". You have to mourn and grieve, and be angry. It's all part of the acceptance process.

Life isn't worthless. You obviously have people relying on you, your mum and brother. Don't hurt them by falling into the same type of despair which drove him to suicide.

For your father, his pain is over. Regretfully, the people left behind are the ones who have to deal with all the crap. You need to talk about your feelings with SOMEONE. Being the strong person isn't all it's cracked up to be. I know..that's my role in my family. You need to be able to give over to your feelings. Otherwise, they'll consume you.

(*hug*)

Answer 7

It is a tough situation that you are in, and I admire you for caring enough to put a strong front for your mother and brother.

Suicide usually leaves the people wonder what had happened, what could have been done differently, why it happened; questions that are difficult to answer,

Please keep in mind that whatever happened was not your fault. Your father's decision was his own, and he had his own reasons.

Please acknowledge the grief that you are feeling. And then... please also realize that there is always hope, always.

Peace be with you and your love ones, Riasmurfblaze.

Answer 8

Not sure where you are located, but you might consider seeking out a local support group. You should let your mom know that you need to talk to someone about it, it's perfectly understandable. Keeping it in won't help you, you need to let it out.

You might check out this website:

Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide
The Flamsteed Centre, Albert Street, Ilkeston, Derbyshire, DE7 5GU
Tel: [phone]
E-Mail: [e-mail]
Website: http://sobs.admin.care4free.net/groups.htm

Answer 9

that is sad dear but luk at it this way..do u believe in god...well if u do then u will have to get bak to normal soon..not only for ur self but for ur mum n brother ..ie-ur family...ik now u must hv been staying strong...in front of ppl but within u r shattered...well...life never ends at tragediess..they actually begin after that...come over it as soon as u can n make ur family over it too...sp. ur mom...get urself buzy in smthing and yes..have faith in god...watever happens no matter how bad...happens for a reason.....wen days of a person end...no one can help it...god has smthings in his own hands.........

Answer 10

you have to talk to someone, someone other then a family member, who is suffering with the same loss you are, therefore trying to heal themselves. Call you family doctor and get a recommendation for a therapist or call local hospital to see if they offer suicide support groups for families.