Ok this is a long one. My bf has this friend who has a weird relationship w/ his “gf”. They broke-up but still “hang out”. OK so here’s my thing: ever since this “break-up” my bf has been going out and doing all these things with his friend and his “gf” but the things they are doing are stuff that I talked about me and my bf doing. You know just going to certain clubs, bars or chill spots. I’m not really mad at the fact that he goes with them its just the fact that he goes to places I want to try and tells me when he’s there or on his way. Of course he doesn’t understand why I get upset. But today really got to me. its my bf’s bday and I was trying to plan a nite with him and he called and suggested that he call his friend and see what he wants to do and then he will call me. I feel like these plans should be made by me and him not his friend, I guess too bc today also is the anniversary of the day we met, so its special to me in 2 ways. Am I just being stupid about the whole thing or is he just being a guy and not realizing what certain things mean to me?
2006-09-26 06:21:47 · 23 answers · asked by so cal mama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like he is putting his friend before you, which isn't cool. Can't you sit him down and have a chat about this? Let him know how it makes you feel. Ask him why he doesn't invite you. You have a right to an answer here. Let him know how special this day is to you and how YOU want to make plans for him. It's actually very sweet, hope he can grasp that fact.
2006-09-26 06:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, he means more to you than you mean to him. He is not meeting your needs, sweetie! He is preoccupied with doing his life his way. He is probably cringing at the thought of spending the evening with you. And, if I were you, don't bring up the "anniversary".....he will hate that even more. I would dump this guy since he is not really interested in having much of a relationship with you.....you are not that important to him. Do it before the birthday "celebration" and then take the gift back!!
2006-09-26 13:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, he should be inviting you, regardless of the reasoning, that's just common courtesy. Second, you should feel exactly as you are, there's nothing wrong with feeling hurt, after all he's leaving you out (a lot). Third, you should try talking to him (calmly), because he may just be oblivious to your feelings, especially if you dont share them. And finally, just keep this in mind, for future consideration, if a guy's not spending time with you, there may be another reason, a reason you havn't thought of yet.
Godd luck!
2006-09-26 13:28:44 · answer #3 · answered by Yahoo! Answers Chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being wrong you are right. You need to find out what is really going on and why he doesnt want you around his friend and his friends girlfriend. Maybe they are having threesomes or maybe your guy and his friend are on the Downlow and use that time for themselves. Who knows, that girl might be your guy's side chick and he's using his friend as a front.
2006-09-26 13:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to step back and take a long look at what is going on. He is not over his Ex girlfriend. And it sure seems like his friends are more important to him than you are. So you need to take a look at what is going on, which by the way I doubt is going to stop. And decide if you can live with things the way they are. or do you deserve better. It is just my opinion but I think you need to move on.
2006-09-26 13:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that he is putting others before you. It is fine to maintian seperate lifes and friends in a relationship, in fact that is heatlthy but today is a special day that should be set aside to celebrate between the 2 of you.
2006-09-26 13:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a guy thing alright...but a guy that really doesn't think that your part of his life...well not his first ring of individuals in his life.
You maybe more serious of him, then he thinks of you. You may want to have a sit down talk and get on the same page.
2006-09-26 13:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by EHBiker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, NO, "you are NOT getting worked up over nothing" It's obvious that he doesnt feel the way you do about things........Things being your so called friendship/relationship.
That's not a GUY thing.......but rather an UNcaring thing.
2006-09-26 13:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to become closer to his other friend if you want to be a part of it all. Talk to the guy.. Maybe he doesn't realize.
2006-09-26 13:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by kite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's not very serious about your relationship, and that you're not the one for him. If you were, he'd want to do all those things with YOU - not with his buddy and his "gf." Time to move on!!
2006-09-26 13:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋