My dad is a very bad person . From my childhood i've seen him to abuse & fight with my mom . He claims himself as the superior to everyone . He does not allow us to keep any relations with any of my mom side relatives . He is an engineer but behaves worse than a labourer person .
Once , a year before when me & my mother when any way managed to visit my grandfather's house we left my mother's younger sister with him who was then studing in a college. you won't belive ,he took our revenge onto her . He litetally abused her . When she complained about this to my mom &when she asked my dad as why he has did this type of thing he said that she was a girl with badcharector & said that she was lying to my mom . We also decided to take help of police of administration but an economic problem theatened us from doing so....
That's why i have left this question for you to answer so that i can get a solution for this
2006-09-26 06:21:47 · 11 answers · asked by shubhamdasshubh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
your father needs help, you should forgive him, but don't forget
2006-09-26 06:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by john b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quote: "He is an engineer but behaves worse than a labourer person . "
Hey. That's offensive. Not every labourer is a dimwit you know. Some people enjoy working outside, some people enjoy physical work. Some of those labourers do other things after work, you know. Not only that, but there are a lot of engineers out there who have mental problems, your father being one of them.
Anyway, sorry to hear about your control freak abusive father.
There's no reason why money problems should prevent you from talking to the police.
What's more important to you: that you live with abuse and money, or that you live without abuse and have money problems?
Anyway, it won't even boil down to that because nobody's saying you won't have money if you get away from the guy.
Get your mom to divorce him.
2006-09-26 06:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A labourer person doesn't behave badly. An engineer doesn't behave well. Character has NOTHING to do what one does for a living. Don't think that, you'll be missing out on a lot of good people in life.
I clicked your question for more details to try to understand what you meant by he threatens you to choose your own way, but I don't really get it.
Sorry your dad is so mean and bad. It does sound like you all have SOME family. Perhaps you can go to them for help.
2006-09-26 06:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your mom need to get out along with any siblings you may have. Go to an abused women's shelter where you will be protected and he can't harm you any more. They'll help your mom get the help she needs, and maybe get your dad the help he needs. The important thing is that you get out of there NOW!!!
Secondly, you need to know that your dad is full of it if he thinks he can force you to live with him. You and your mom (along with any other witnesses) can testify against him, declaring him an unfit parent. Express everything you did here, tell everything you have seen, and tell them you do not want to live with this man. If your mom won't stand up for you, then you can opt to live with a realitive. There are other options!!!! Please speak with a school counsoler or a counsoler at the women's shelter.
I hope things get better for you. ;_;
2006-09-26 06:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by serena_dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and your mother need to pack your stuff and get out, bottome line. Go to families home-file charges if he threatens you (with the police) and NEVER LOOK BACK-do not believe promises that he will change and do not allow MONEY to keep you in a dangerous and unhappy situation. If you must be poor but safe be safe.
2006-09-26 06:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set up a restraining order. Get your family out of there. Same thing happens with me, but I am only 16. If your old enogh do those things and he will be out of your life. He does not need to be near you, your mom, or your sister.
LEAVE!
2006-09-26 06:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by missyloowho 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU AND YOUR MOM HAVE TO DECIDE IF POSSIBLE FINANCIAL HARDSHIP IS AS BAD AS THE ABUSE YOU'RE RECEIVING FROM YOUR DAD!!!! IF YOUR FATHER ENDS UP REALLY HURTING (OR WORSE KILLING) ONE OF YOU THEN YOU'LL HAVE FINANCIAL PROBLEMS ANYWAY BECAUSE THE LAW WILL LOCK HIM UP!!! GIRL IT IS SIMPLE -- YOU AND YOUR MOM LEAVE AND MAKE HIM PAY!!! IF YOU DON'T DO SOMETHING, SOMEBODY ELSE MAY (A NEIGHBOR, RELATIVE,FRIEND) AND IT WILL BE WORSE!!! YOUR DAD NEEDS HELP KIDDO!!!!
2006-09-26 06:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by xxx69forall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get the police or another department involved. Financial problems are resolved with child support and if you help working after school.
Please try to stay away from those fights, if he lose his mind can hurt you too.
2006-09-26 06:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by success532 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do but be there for your mother.....it's up to her to decide to stand up for herself and leave.....as long as she relinquishes power and bows to him, he'll always control her. As far as you having to chose between them, it's an absurd request and you shouldn't be placed in the middle of their mess. As hard as it may be to do, you're going to have to remove yourself from the situation because it's not your battle to fight...it's your mother's.
2006-09-26 06:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS HARSH.BUT tell your mother she should of left years ago. THIS MAN IS OUT OF control. HE has angar management issues.
2006-09-26 06:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
U shud pack ur bags&leave him both u n ur mum.sorry buh da guy's a loser u better off w/out him
2006-09-26 06:26:00 · answer #11 · answered by soft heart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋