my hubby diched me.even he knows that what his mom does his wrong.he didnt care wen i was pregnant& got an abortion also.still now he had not called me.do i have to rejoin him or divorse him
2006-09-26 06:16:45 · 23 answers · asked by sherya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and this is the second time we r saperated
2006-09-26 06:55:25 · update #1
someone who could treat you like that once will do it over and over again, and you will never win the mom vs. wife war.
2006-09-26 06:18:49 · answer #1 · answered by Jep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You got an abortion & he did not care!
2. He sent you out of his house!
Do you know what a man's weakest spot is? His child! And if your husband (as you said) did not care when you got an abortion, I think its time to see a lawyer and say "Good bye" to him!
Not sure of the mom effect! As you've not detailed the same! So, I would not comment on that!
But you need to get divorced from this man, as soon as possible!
All the best!
AB
2006-09-26 06:42:16 · answer #2 · answered by arnab.boral 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple, in order to be happy together as mates should prioritize being partners first, then being parents, then being a daughter and son.
Sudhi, if your husband is not willing to make your relationship work, I suggest that you leave the situation. You will be spared of future heartbreak.
Improve your skills, get even higher education, be independent. One of this days, you will be an inspiration to women in similar situations.
Namaste.
2006-09-26 06:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by tranquil 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to see a lawyer, and get out of that mess, life is too short to be miserable, there are a lot great men, out there that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Also, if you really love him and want to wait, go get you a job and ignore him and see if he is willing to come back, but make sure you, move far from his Mother. Have to make your stand one way or the other.
2006-09-26 06:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by koni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a) As you said, he knows that his mom is wrong. Eventhough he is doing wrong because he is bound by his mothers love
b) Don't treat him bad and never divorce him.
c) Love him more than what his mother did.
d) Some time your absent will also creat a change in his way.
e) Igone the people who ask you to divorce / fight / go to law etc. They are the first enemis in the real life. Definitly it should be the last one.
Love, Patient, affection and mutual understanding will give you prosperous life. Pl. call me once you achive.
2006-09-26 06:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
First try to find out if your husband wants you back or is he having other things on his mind, what made him to ditch you that is take up the abortion issue and send you out of your house everything depend son that
2006-09-27 19:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by new 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd either write "return to sender, wrong address," or just keep ripping them up. You don't really need to explain anything to them, as it's not your problem. I understand the letters are a nuisance... but really, if his family doesn't know what's going on (the marriage or the divorce), I'd let that stay between them.
2016-03-18 01:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you have much of a marriage. I would suggest you file for a legal separation to show him you are serious and see if he's willing to do anything to work on the marriage. If it's ever going to be any kind of a success, he will have to learn how to "leave" his mother and "cleave" to his wife.
2006-09-26 06:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something is wrong with your ways of keeping relationship with mother-in-law...Maybe you are biased against your mother in law. Maybe your husband is " attached " to his mother too much.Once bitten is twice shy. So dont take a third chance.Either change yourself, your attitude , go his ,mother, say sorry to her and start living happily thereafter with her and your bubby. Or divorce him if he is eager to sign the Divorce papers.
2006-09-26 14:57:09 · answer #9 · answered by Haresh Punjabi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. It is clear that he is not treating you well. You must assert yourself and start living on your own terms. If divorce would help you, please go ahead and get it. And start living with self respect that your husband is trying to take away now. Good Luck!!
2006-09-26 16:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is inhuman. If you aren't a Mother Teresa clone, just divorce him. The earlier you get rid of him the better - for you.
2006-09-26 06:24:16 · answer #11 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋