my boyfriend and i are on this break because he is tired of fighting. it's been a while now. we still talk and say i love you but he refuses to see me.
today is our anniversary and i told him i have a gift for him because i got it a long time ago before anything happened. he said he would like to see what it is, meaning he will come over to see. he said if im nice to him and dont argue with him he will come back to me. that's what ive been doing for a while.
i told him he has two suprises. one is the gift and the other is me and that i will stop fighting with him. he said he was happy without all the fighting. if i love him i will truly stop figthing with him over stupid ****. he needs to trust me.
will he take me back or is he just holding onto me because he doesnt want to be alone right now?????
2006-09-26 06:15:53 · 7 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
NOTE: i didnt tell him the other suprise is me yet. i want to tell him in person.
2006-09-26 06:17:35 · update #1
to be honest i think it is because we saw each other every single day and we just got annoyed with one another so we started fighting over the dumbest crap. if we dont spend every single day together we wont fight and its not me changing for the worse..its me changing for the better!!!
2006-09-26 06:23:20 · update #2
Fighting is about contol - who's in charge. If you "stop fighting" with him, you are ceding to his judgment and control, no matter what. If you can't live with that, don't. What I would recommend is this: Figure out everything you two typically fight over. Of those topics, figure out which ones are extremely important to you (i.e. - sex, religion, politics, etc) and that you are unwilling to concede on. All the inconsequential topics (i.e. - what's for dinner, what's on TV), understand those small things don't matter, they change from day to day, anyway, and aren't worth fighting over. Forget them. Discuss the big things with your partner, and let him know that your feelings are not likely to change - at least not very soon, anyway. Keep an open mind, and listen to his opinions, too. Don't yell. Don't argue. Just discuss. If at the end of the discussion, you both feel you can coexist in some degree of harmony, enjoy whatever time together. But if you feel you cannot agree to respect each other's views short of yelling, you probably are not right for each other. Better to end it now. Good news, though - there are over 7 billion people in the world. At least one is a man who will agree with you, or at least respect your opinions enough not to challenge you every time an issue arises.
2006-09-26 06:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by Dead Elvis 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest he probably loves you but guys don't like to fight all the time and that is what makes them stop wanting to be with you. He is probably just holding onto you for a backup plan just in case he doesn't find another woman. If you really love try spending time with him and show him that you can hang with him without arguing and the maybe he'll see that you have changed.
2006-09-26 13:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't like arguing he should get used to agreeing with you. He's going to grow up and find that adult relationships require even more compromise from him.
For what it's worth, he doesn't sound like a good boyfriend that deserves an anniversary gift or your love.
2006-09-26 13:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you sound like you are ready to put it out there, but if the silly stuff becomes issues again, expect him to be gone and not come back at all... Be sure that is what you are ready to do and you also have to consider that he probably has to adjust as well. Good luck...
2006-09-26 13:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly mean to make changes in the relationship, then all the more power to you! That's a very brave step, and hopefully your bf will see this and give you the second chance you deserve. :-) Good luck!
2006-09-26 13:32:17 · answer #5 · answered by serena_dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are starting off on the wrong foot. Like your score here, your dating prowness is in the minus zone. If you dont get along, then you dont need to be together.......Simple as that. Do NOT change who you are for ANYONE!
2006-09-26 13:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time for a booty call
2006-09-26 13:19:26 · answer #7 · answered by szfr8l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋