Maybe I was born shy. I just cannot get myself to talk to new people. I do not feel comfortable talking to them. I feel very comfortable talking to my friends though and my family. But when it comes to new people in class, words cannot come out. I tried saying hi to lots of people in class but it still didn't work. I tried joining clubs and talking to new people but I still feel uncomfortable. Any ideas on how to counteract my uncomfortableness?
2006-09-26 06:13:46 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is very simple.
First it takes practice.
Second, you have to realize that people want to talk about themselves.
Ask them questions about themselves and they will love talking about their favorite subject.
They will think that you are interesting and fun.
2006-09-26 06:16:24 · answer #1 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Some people find it difficult to make friends. Perhaps u are shy, or feel lack of social skills to start a conversation. Suggestions include:
Join groups that share your common interests. Talking about one of your passions, such as gardening or writing short stories, for example, can help give you confidence to talk about other things with potential new friends.
Watch and learn from gregarious people who make friends easily.
Practise looking people in the eye when you talk to them.
Listen to what others are saying, rather than focusing on your own self-consciousness.
Smile.
Look for anyone else in the room who seems socially awkward, and approach them for conversation.
When you talk to someone new, ask them questions about themselves or what they like to do; it's a good way to get started.
Social skills can be learned, so seek professional help if you feel you need it.
2006-09-26 13:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by Fahim . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of a few standard questions that you can ask people to help jump start a conversation. Don't ask questions that call for a "yes" or "no" answer (questions beginning with "do," "did," "have," "are"), but questions that begin with "how," "what," "why," "when," "who," or "where."
"Hi, my name is John. What's your name? What do you think of this class? (or this teacher) What kinds of thing do you like to do outside of school?
People generally like it when someone takes an interest in them, but if someone doesn't respond much, don't worry about it. You will find many people who will respond and be friendly back.
2006-09-26 13:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by happygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
very few people are confident 100% of the time. i always find cracking a few jokes about myself the way forward, if it doesn't go down well the make a joke about the akwardness. dont think about what ya gonna say just say it!
2006-09-26 13:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i usta be shy!! practise makes perfect!! quit worrying about what others think of u!! have self confiendence..and join speech make yourself do it i did that and know i cant stop talking!! just do it!! i think its like driving u practise and it makes u better too bad i dont drive well lol
2006-09-26 13:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by chas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋