When to tell your family you are pregnant?

Question

When should you tell your family you are pregnant? I had a miscarriage a couple of months ago. We will be trying again this month October. At how many weeks should we tell friends and family we are pregnant?

Answer 1

the best thing to do is tell ur parents and ur husbands parents only for probably the first and second trimester! tell them to keep it quiet as well (i'm not sure if u've already told them abt ur unfortunate miscarriage, but if u have then they will understand y u want to keep it under wraps for a while). then once u start showing u can tell the rest of the family- if they ask u why u kept it quiet, tell them that it was becuz u wanted to make sure the baby was healthy and safe and u didn't want to count ur chickens before they hatch. make sure u get regular check ups with ur GYN/OB and if u feel anything strange happening with ur body, report it to ur doctor immediately- go with ur gut instinct!! if u feel something strange, don't shrug it aside. i'm sure u will take all the necessary precautions with ur pregnancy- good luck and all the best!
ps. discuss with ur husband as well as to when u shud tell the rest of ur family - SOMETIMES men are right :P

Answer 2

That's such a hard question to answer. I've had several miscarriages and telling people about the pregnancy is always such a big decision. Some people say you should wait until you're three months along when the risk for miscarriage is lower. But then if (heaven forbid) you miscarry before that time, your family doesn't even know you were pregnant in the first place. You may want their support and I don't understand why a woman is supposed to suffer through the loss of miscarriage on her own. Why does it have to be secret suffering? The woman is just supposed to go back to work and act like nothing happened. It's sad.

Do whatever feels natural to you. If you decide to tell people, make sure you keep everything low key and only tell your closest (and most discreet) friends and family members.

Answer 3

I told my family when I was five months pregnant. I found out at four and a half months, but didn't want to miscarry and knew being pregnant was a big deal. I was pregnant before and couldn't face the disappointment of a miscarriage again. I was constantly worried my whole pregnancy that I was going to miscarry and disappoint everyone. Tell them when you feel comfortable. It's up to you.

Answer 4

I had two miscarriages before, so when I got pregnant I tried to wait. But my husband was always so excited he told everyone real quick. Luckily it's worked out each time since the miscarriages, but if I'd had a choice I'd probably have waited until after the first trimester.

Answer 5

I think alot of people wait until they've seen or heard a heartbeat, or even until you're in the 2nd trimester. I personally tell people right away so they can pray for a healthy pg. I understand not wanting to tell people right away but I would tell some so you can have thier support. Pg is a very emotional time and you need your family around...miscarriage or not. Good luck and take care!!! Sorry about your loss, I've been there...3 times.

Answer 6

I would say wait until your second trimester at least. I believe most miscarriages happen during the first trimester. This way if you wait until 4 months or so, hopefully everything will be okay and nothing to worry about then. Plus to, it will help your pregnancy go by much quicker for your family. Good luck and I hope all goes well for you this time around!!!!

Answer 7

Well its best to wait until at least the end of the first trimester(12 weeks), which is when misscarriage is most common. Since you have misscarried before you may want to wait longer than that, maybe until the end of your second trimester or when you are obviously showing. Of course all of this really depends on you and when you are ready to tell. I waited until I was 6 months pregnant before I told my family(i was showing at this point) We had a couple scares in the beginning of my pregnancy so I waited until I thought it would be ok to tell.

Answer 8

I told my grandparents (because my parents aren't around and don't care about me). I was about 1 1/2 months. But if i was you i would wait until you are about 12 weeks before i told. I was forced to tell i kept going to the doctor becuase i have sics. Then they thought i was pregnant so i had to keep taking test until they figured it out. Anyways congrats. Oh and if you wait till you are 12 weeks they can't make you have an abortion. Then when they see there grandchild they will wanna keep it so either way you are having a baby and take good care of it.

Answer 9

The first 3 months are the most common for a miscarriage...if you wait, and then explan it to your family, they will understand it is easier for you and your man to deal with a secret failed pregnancy, than to have the whole world reminding you of it all the time. That you were affraid to spread the good news until you were out of "the danger zone"

Answer 10

If you can keep it a secret for that long, I think the appropriate time would be just after the 12 week mark. After the first trimester, the risk of miscarriage goes down considerably.