2006-09-26 05:47:33 · 12 answers · asked by Tom 4 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
To be honest, I get dumbfounded (nonplus, speechless with surprise) and most of the time I try to use rational approach of getting to understand why the other party has resorted to confrontational approach with me.
If my reasoning and application of logic fails to have the other party to come to 'negotiation' approach, then sadly I do get caught in the trap set for me and lose my calm and composure.
I am trying hard to overcome my shortcoming in such situation and would be watching the responses you get here for my benefit too!
2006-09-26 05:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by Hafiz 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
LOL...I do this for a living. I'm a 911 operator! Try to speak to them in a non threatening manner ie. an even toned voice, respond or question them in a way that wouldn't be perceived as threatening. Try to be understanding even if what they are saying to you sounds rediculous, ludicrous, or just plain crazy. This requires a certain talent...lol. Most are over emotional at the moment of being confrontational and just need to calm down a bit before thinking rationally. Some just aren't capable of thinking rationally. You can either deal with people in a calm manner or walk away and say nothing.
2006-09-26 12:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Insulting their lack of education or intelligence usually works for me. Obvious flaws or genetic predispositions are also a pretty good target as well as pointing out certain behaiors. Discussing the causal variable or event that led to the confrontation almost never works for me - especially when dealing with those that talk much faster than they think.
2006-09-26 12:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Direct and calmly--you think alot clearer and you were being confronted not the other way around, so you didn't have the problem.Just provide "your" answer.
2006-09-26 12:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by Doll eyez 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I end up threating to kill one of them and now I am in trouble whit the court system and I am losing my mind I really want to punish these people ..my family thinks I am nuts and every lawyer I call I cant afford and the court says I make to much money to be given one for free. I only fear that if all goes badly I will end up hurting these people...people are scum...they really are..
2006-09-26 12:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by Kingofreportedabuse 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It depends on whether or not you like opposition and debate..if so, get involved in the conversation...ensuring it's a healthy one and of professional tones. Otherwise, walk away. Also consider the relationship with this individual.
2006-09-26 12:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by Guinevere 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is obvious that something I say or I do is unacceptable to him or her so that they are confronting me. It is their perception of me. Possible that he or she is not alone and many others too have such views about me . But they all may not be as confrontational as him/her.
I would do an introspection to find out what is it that I am lacking. May be he /she was right. may be I need to improve in such and such areas in interpersonal relationship.
2006-09-26 13:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by YD 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
ask yourself why are they confrontational to you are they jealous of something you can do how you look you car clothes job etc, if so they are probally insecure about themselves and it makes them feel better about themselves think of this before you send out what you have received
2006-09-26 12:56:53 · answer #8 · answered by pecola princepessa 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i try to difuse the situation by making a joke of something or saying something nice about them it happens often and works a treat
2006-09-26 12:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I look at them as if they had just sprouted horns and grown a tail.
2006-09-26 12:51:40 · answer #10 · answered by lidlolady 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋