I live with my bfr. for over a year, moved in under circumstances, cuz I don't believe in cohabitation. He is much older and has three children from his previous marriage. I realize he is nor right for me, but still this noncommital relationship is bothering me, even though I would never force him into marriage. I feel it's just degrading for the woman to do that. I have to attend school for another year and I don't want to break up. So, should I stay with him and finish my school or move on and not waste my time? How can I cope with his noncommitment, since I can't move out yet???
2006-09-26 05:22:51 · 11 answers · asked by Mistyfog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't have it both ways......If he isn't right for you then what problem do you have with him seeing other people?! Makes no sense to me what so ever. You have two choices, get a job and move out or stay there and deal with it.
2006-09-26 05:32:17 · answer #1 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you can't move out, you have to stay for now - might as well make the best of it. Just focus on your school, and do the best you can under the circumstances. Until you're in the position to move out, your options are limited. There's nothing degrading in relationships of convenience, we all need a little help sometimes, and if you take what you can get and make the best of it, no one will blame you.
2006-09-26 12:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop wasting your time.
If he is not committed to you, he doesn't care as much about you as you may think. If he loved you, he'd want to be with you and only you.
Rather then sticking around and getting your feelings hurt, move on, finish school, be successful, and eventuall you'll find love somewhere else.
2006-09-26 12:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need this guy. He's got too much baggage for one and for another he;s using this excuse of non commitment on you as a crutch so he can go and fu*k around with whoever he wants. Get out asap.
2006-09-26 12:27:19 · answer #4 · answered by flutterby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have somewhere else to stay at, I'd hurry up finish school and just deal with it.
2006-09-26 12:26:06 · answer #5 · answered by bettyboop_littlebettybop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can move out. You ALWAYS have a choice.
2006-09-26 12:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he's not right for you but your annoyed at his non commitment...doesnt make much sense.
2006-09-26 12:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i myself dont believe in that sort of living arrangement. u hve to make that decision hon.
2006-09-26 12:28:28 · answer #8 · answered by Miss-Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FINISH SCHOOL AND DEAL WITH IT. A WOMAN HAS TO DO WHAT A WOMAN HAS TO DO
2006-09-26 12:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unable to support yourself, you have no right to criticize anyone .
2006-09-26 13:13:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋