I read all the postings about people cheating...
We all know how "wrong" it is - there are more than enough answers bashing people for even thinking about it!
What about -
The GOOD part of having an affair?
I would love to hear from those who are foolling around - that have POSITIVE things to say about it.
Is it the sex? Having that "secret" only you know about.? Is it just the excitement?
Whats the BEST part about your affair?
2006-09-26 05:17:46 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OK.. I'll not hop on my soapbox about how affairs ruin lives and such and just answer your question.
the BEST part about an affair:
- that little tingle in your tummy you get when you are about to meet
- the attention you get from your lover
- being able to ask your lover to do what you can't ask your partner (and have it done)
- being able to ***** about everything to someone and not have them hold it against you
- being introduced to new things (especially sexually)
- having a secret no one else knows (yeah right.. for now)
- having that twinkle in your eye when you think about your lover
- taking back to your partner what you have learned from your lover (yikes!!!)
- the thrill of doing sometning you shouldn't be (thrill of maybe being caught)
2006-09-26 05:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really? For me it was getting caught and stopping. Why was that the best part? Because it forced me to take a hard look at the "why" part and other things about myself that I really needed to address.
Yes my wife and I are separated. She may or may not be able to forgive me. It is the worst thing I have ever done and i will take it to my grave that I hurt her.
In the end, I will be a better man. I will understand myself better and will be a better human. I pray it is with my wife, but it may not.
2006-09-26 05:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose its all about "eating the forbidden fruit", the excitement of doing some you shouldn't be, the excitement of something new and interesting every day (as opposed to the boredom of an aging relationship), the risk of getting caught all the time, and a certain sadistic pleasure that you're so crafty that you're actually getting away with it!
2006-09-26 05:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by Norman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my husband for over 10 years. But it's been hell most of the time. He has a drug addiction. We've battled off and on over the years about him getting the help he needs. Four years ago he went into rehab after me throwing him out cuz I caught him about to "score". Once he came out things were great. He went to NA, and did everything possible to stay clean. Except work on mending our marraige. Two years ago I found out he fell of the NA band wagon & I had had enough. After fours years of sleeping on the couch I was done. To a point! I still couldn't leave him. I found myself being sought out be another man who I worked with. He made me feel sexy, desirable, needed, & wanted. All the things I was missing for so long. Of course that attracted me to him, plus his georgous looks helped. Remember what it felt like the very first time you were about to kiss someone whom you trully liked or where about to have sex for the first time with someone....that electrifying feeling between the two of you the moment before you kissed or touched? Well, that kind of what having an affair is all about. Well, after the first night of my affair (since I didn't come home that night), my husband moved out. I never stopped him. But over the course of the next few months even though I was still dating the man I had the affair with my husband started changing...For the better. And so was I. We could enjoy each other's company. We were opening up to each other. He was going back to NA, again. Next thing I know I'm dumping the other man & "dating" my husband, again. I finally ended up confessing the affair and two things wonderful happened that night...My husband forgave me & we made love for the first time in years. It's been six months since that time & we are now living together raising our children like before but better! We still are VERY open to each other. We talk about everything...even the really touchy subjects. Plus I feel the affair opend my horizons about sex & I learned about myself along the way because we now havea healthy sex life that the two of you realy enjoy. It wasn't like that before. Yes, having the affair was wrong. I've atone for that sin. But I feel it helped out my marriage in a positive way.
2006-09-26 05:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by blondeyone32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how you look at it..The negatives weight out the possitives..Stay away from men who are married. It will end in heartbreak please trust me on this!!
2006-09-26 05:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋