What does that mean??!!...........cause this gurl i knew her for 3-4 years and, she backed off cause she said she was scared cause she questioned if she really loved me or not, and also cause she thought i loved her more then she loved me......isnt that what women want is a guy that will love them more?
2006-09-26 04:59:52 · 14 answers · asked by Trent 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thats bull. She is lost...drop that sour apple and get some fresh meat. Your a strong guy, no women I mena no woman has that kind of hold on a MAn casue if she does...YOUR WEAK
2006-09-26 05:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you knew her for three to four years, then you must have had some form of a friendship. One reason for her backing off may have been that she didn't want to ruin what was a stable friendship. While you are right about women wanting a guy to love them.......WHICH guy MATTERS. And no, speaking for myself, I don't want a guy to 'love me more', that seems like the perspective of someone who has been hurt, and is afraid to contribute and expose themselves in a relationship again. By having the guy give, contribute, expose himself more in the beginning.....then she would feel safe to do the same, and recieve it. Well, that isn't healthy. I know because I used to do it.
A relationship is not 50/50. It's 100/100, and BOTH should contribute. There should be reciprocity. You don't deserve anything less.
This girl CARES about you, she didn't want to hurt you. Going on and letting you give your all when she knew she didn't feel the same, and that things were unequal would have left YOU hurting and devastated. So, while she didn't love you romantically.....she loved you like the friend she has been for the past few years.....
and she DID have your best interest at heart.
She's a KEEPER. As a FRIEND, I mean. =)
2006-09-26 05:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, we want guys that will love us, but it has to be the right guy(maybe you were not what she was really looking for). The other part is even though we want our men to show affection we still want them to man up. Love doesn't always mean submission, sometimes it means saying to a woman this is how it is and that's final. Oh talk about pissin' us off and turning us on all at the same time. Bottom line you showed to much vulnerability.
2006-09-26 05:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by onedzire27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends cause there are woman who wants that he loves the man more than a man loves her cause there is some kind of thrill for her.But on the other side maybe its just that she is not ready yet to be committed or her heart wants someone else,that's why she's a bit confuse right now.Just give her time to realize things out.
2006-09-26 05:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, most of us do want a guy that loves us more than we love him. But maybe this girl just doesn't love you and doesn't want to hurt you any further. Also she might feel that you love her so much that you will some day ask her to marry you and she will not be able to. Don't worry about her, be thankful that she told you now before you married her.
2006-09-26 05:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes saying that she is having second thought and doubts. Shes not sure if she really is in love with you. You could be showing too much affection and scaring her away. Try to make the relationship more chanelleging.
2006-09-26 05:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that she feels guilty that she cannot return your feelings and she feels like she is cheating you by staying with you. She is backing off because she still cares about you very much and hopes that you will find someone else who will love you as much as you love her.
Good luck. Try to remain friends with her. She will always be a good friend to you and look out for your best interests, even if you aren't together anymore.
2006-09-26 05:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by Magina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes my husband loved me more then I loved him before we got married. Then I caught up. Now were totally in love with each other the same amount. I think that was dumb what the girl did. Its like she didnt give it a chance.
2006-09-26 05:04:58 · answer #8 · answered by **What??** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no actually i dont like to feel dat he loves more than i do. i like to feel dat i love him more even if it wasnt true.
as for ur girl frnd. i dont think dat she s sure of what she s feeling. u have to talk to her and let her explain what went wrong, @ which point, and what should u do.
if she asks 2 b far 4 a while do it. cos maybe she needs time to evaluate ur relashion.
give it to her, we sometimes need to b far to realise how much we love our partner.
good luck.
2006-09-26 05:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by mimo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most women want their man to love them more...if there isn't love after 3-4 years..what do you have anyway?
2006-09-26 05:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by gingergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋