2006-09-26 04:47:16 · 14 answers · asked by MRS.H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I miscarried at 16 weeks in Jan with my only son. My husband and I have three daughters and he was one and only boy. At first I was in denial, I was like this didn't happen to me. Then I was angry, I was so mad at everyone that I shut myself off, even from my girls. Then I cried a lot, everytime I saw a baby boy, every week that passed and I should have been so many weeks along. I was depressed, I didn't want to shower, I didnt' want to cook, or clean my house, bathe my kids, hug my husband, I didnt' want to do anything. I can't tell you when it got better, but I woke up one day and realized I didn't cry the day before. It's been over 8 months and it's still very hard day to day, and sometimes I still cry because he will forever be my baby, just like my living children. It takes time, that's the only thing that will help it get better. You'll never "get over it" or forget, but you will learn how to manage your grief and how to cope with everyday life. I'm terribly sorry for your loss, that's a part of you that will never be returned, but I promise it does get better.
2006-09-26 05:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by justwondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I would like to say, sorry if you had a miscarriage. I have had three and they all suck just the same. Miscarriages are not easy to deal with. They are very disappointing. But keep in mind, for every five pregnancy's they say one will end in miscarriage. So now you have four kids to go before you have another.(if there are no other reasons that caused your situation.) You have to move on. The faster you go threw your emotions the faster you will be able to jump back on the horse. Cry. Let it out. This is the main problem that alot of women have. I have a 4 and 5 year old girls, and now a boy on the way.(21 weeks) I know it is possible to have a baby after a miscarriage. It all happens at the right time. Good luck Hun.
2006-09-26 04:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay well let me start by saying that had i had the miscarriage at the beginning of my pregnancy i would have been really happy i was 17 and did not really want a child i had already had one abortion and did not want to have another one so that was out of the question but when i moved in with my boyfriend and we decided that we were going to keep the baby and even started buying things for it i was really i dont know how to describe it mad, annoyed, disappointed just a whole lot of emotions all at once but then once i got home from the hospital and off the morphine that they had given me i realized that it was for the best because i was not ready to be a mother just yet and it does not bother me now i know that it happened for a reason
2006-09-26 05:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt relived. There is a reason for everything and it was just not my time to have a baby. I was sad but I had an overwhelming sense of peace. Many years later I have a wonderful 13 month old with a man who could not have been a better father if I had bought him, lol. Give it time. Feel whatever it is you are feeling and know that its okay. There is NO right or wrong way to feel.
2006-09-26 04:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by marirene74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I were, of course, devastated. We're pregnant again (our second pregnancy). We feel so different this time. We're scared to be excited. We haven't told anybody, where last time we blabbed it to everybody at work and home. It doesn't even feel real this time. Its sad. I'm disappointed that I'm not more excited, like we were the first time. But we just got burned so bad, I mean we didn't hold back at all that first time. We were thinking about names, we bought stuff (little outfits, decorations for the room, we were looking at cribs, etc.), and its just so different this time. It's tough. If you had a miscarriage, I feel for you. I'm not going to give you a story to share. Right now this is about you, You feel bad and you should. We feel for you.
2006-09-26 04:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by Poppies_rule 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I felt so shocked cause i didn't even know i was pregnant and i felt really sad because of it.
I blame myself cause i didn't know i was pregnant and that if i had gone to the hospital sooner it would not have happened (Thought i was having 2 periods in a month)
It kills me inside to know that i could be playing with a 7 month old baby girl or boy right now.
Miscarriage is a terrible thing to go through.
2006-09-26 05:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's been 6 mos and i think i'm still a little down about it. i think finding help is a good idea, i think i should of. i'm pregnant again and can't even force myself to be happy about it because i'm sure i'll lose this one again. i think after a miscarriage u have to give urself time to grieve but make sure u do get over it.
2006-09-26 05:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by confused mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Upset, mad at the world. I felt like a failure. I also hated all of the unsolicited advice from people like "it wasn't meant to be" or "it's OK, you'll get pregnant again" or my favorite "well, it's a good thing it happened now and not later". I wanted to crawl in a hole and die.
2006-09-26 04:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by TRUE PATRIOT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like it was my fault. I could have done something different. Had more rest, ate better etc.
It was not your fault. It takes time to go through mourning.
I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-09-26 04:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by Ontario_Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depend on if you wanted the baby some pplz are happy because they didnt want it in the other side i would be sad and very very depressed
2006-09-26 04:51:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋