I'm asking if you'd still be sexually attracted to her and in love with her. or is it possible to still love her but just not find her to be attractive anymore?
What are the signs he's not attracted anymore?
2006-09-26 04:42:19 · 13 answers · asked by Kristen 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course I would still be in love and attracted to her. For me love and attraction are not just about physical appearance. If the only reason I was in love with her and/or attracted to her was because of her appearance, then the relationship was doomed from the start. I am attracted to what is inside a woman's heart and mind. Kindness, compassion, intelligence, etc.
AS for the signs that he's not attracted anymore, well if he is less affectionate, especially in public, than he was before, then he is definitely less attracted to you.
2006-09-26 04:52:11 · answer #1 · answered by Bluesman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sort of in this spot right now. The person I'm with has gained a bit of weight. It's like she's not the same person I first met and liked, both physically and mentally. I was attracted to that first person. If I had wanted to be with someone with a litle more weight, I would have been. But I liked her for the WHOLE package. She's gained weight and on top of that, her whole attitude has changed. She's crabby all the time, complains about everything. Sometimes I hate being around her because she does is ***** about stuff. I feel guilty for feeling that way because you're supposed to take the person as they are, warts and all. I started going to the gym about three years ago, lost weight, toned up and even stopped smoking. I'm probably in better shape than I was when we met. But she doesn't seem to care, so I feel, why should I. I'm not really sexualy attracted to her anymore. Every now and then we'll mess around a little, but I'm not turned on that much. But I doubt if we'll break up. Been together for a long time. But I don't know if I want to live the rest of my life with her this way. That's one of the big signs he's not attracted anymore, by the way. Sex is one of the first things to go. If the sex drive goes down as the weight goes up, then you can be pretty sure of the reason why. And you can't mention it because A) they know they've gained weight already and B) they'll take your suggestion that they lose weight as a sign that they're not attractive to you (which may be right). And the people who say, "I'd love them either way" may love them emotionally, but sexually would be a different matter.
2006-09-26 11:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
50 lb's in 1 year is a danger sign of her not being happy first of all! Sexual attraction is different for everybody...weight gain wouldnt bother some people but does have a huge effect on others. Communication is the key... sit down and discuss the body changes and the effect its possibly having on the relationship. Offer to help, eat better go for walks and get some exercise. Marriage is a compromise and husband and wife need to be open and honest with each other to make it last long term. Obviously lack of affection and sexual desire are good signs that the weight is getting between you both. This needs to be addressed before the real problems set in. Good luck....TALK!
2006-09-26 11:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kinda depends on what caused the weight gain - did she have a baby? If not, it would seem she just "let herself go" after she figured she had a man that would stick around. To "let oneself go" is the epitome of laziness and in a sense a lack of self respect and respect for the other person. Weight gain affects 2 people.
I for one would probably not be as attracted to a partner that gained a lot of weight...however I would bring up the problem and ask how I could help her lose the weight. The signs of not eing attracted to someone are obvious....lack of sexual interest among the most.
2006-09-26 12:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
manofthestreet has some excellent points. When women gain weight, (I'm one of them), they tend to become depressed, self absorbed, *ithcy, and lose self-respect. So many people say..."You're the same person in the inside" But NO, from personal experience,,,you are NOT the same. 50 pounds makes a WORLD of difference in a sexual relationship. It makes it harder, less sensual, and more of a chore. When I'm heavy, I'm a lights out, straight sex kind of gal. When I'm thin...everything goes. I know my husband is less attracted. He doesn't want sex daily anymore...crap, he doesn't want it weekly. (neither do I) I know he still loves me, but I highly doubt he is turned on by me....I"M NOT TURNED ON BY ME! Lets go on a diet together and get our hubbys turn on again...LOL
2006-09-26 12:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is love you can not see it so if she did gain a little weight you should still love her for her don't be so shallow women tends to gain weight especially after a baby
2006-09-26 12:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by C live 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexually attracted, absolutely not !!! Still love her ??? Maybe. But without the sexual attraction he will end up wandering off on you !!!!
2006-09-26 11:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by gozedown 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Prob not find her as attractive but still love her nah mean
2006-09-26 11:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by Big Poppa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care what anyones says.........it definitely effects the relationship...........I know that they may deny it and say it does not matter, but it does............I know it, my husband always told me it did not matter, but when I finally lost of the weight again he was very happy........and keeps giving me alot of nice compliments.......where before he did not...................
my advise Lose the weight if you can...............
2006-09-26 12:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by T 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what kind of question is that? Ask yourself if you fell in love with her as a person or her appearance, cause people change as they get older. Think about it.
2006-09-26 11:55:32 · answer #10 · answered by carzone28 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋