my 11 year old son started high school 3 week ago, already he has been truanting been late a number of times, now he is hanging about with new friends so i put a stop to it, or at least tried he isnt getting away with this behaviour, and was never like this at his previous school apart from sit in all his lesons all day every day what can i do? the skipping school was a dare apparently!
2006-09-26 04:40:06 · 10 answers · asked by tracy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
IN THE UK U GO TO HIGH/UPPER SCHOOL WHEN YOU ARE 11, IT NOT STRANGE!!
2006-09-26 04:59:28 · update #1
In the uk you go to high school and you are in year 7 its just the same as in the us grade 7 rite to answer your problem tracy you need to have a chat with him about the dangers of truanting school anything can happen to him i would ask the school to put him on report so when he goes in to each lesson it has to be signed by every teacher id ask for a month he prob will receive detention as the school will punish him as well for this, also explain if he continues with this behaviour you could receive a hefty fine of £1000 or a jail sentence for 4 months i tell my kids this most weeks and i tell them they will be grounded for a month and no tv, no pocket money and they will stay in their rooms after tea for a month they know i mean business if they truant school because im not prepared to receive a jail sentence for them acting foolish and a fine when i cant afford it. he will soon realise he cant get away with it and he will always be caught out. stick to your guns on the punishment you give him. good luck
2006-09-26 05:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by vicky s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without sounding patronising, sit him down and tell him the rights from wrongs, children are so easily led, my daughters excuse for everything is her friends, i try to install the thought process that she has a mind of her own, what she does now reflects on her later on in life. Bit dramatic, but hey. Kids are growing up so quickly they need to know the rights from wrongs a lot earlier i think.
Try asking him what he wants from life, what he wants to do when he has left school, dreams and aspirations. Then explain by not being focused at school and bowing down to peer pressure he won't be able to achieve his goals.
Good luck hun, keep us posted - i may need some advise in 3 years time.
2006-09-26 04:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter started high school this term too...apart from all the make up and cocky attitude its been a good experience for her...Its all new, exciting, new friends, older influences. Be consistent in your punishment if he continues to miss school, don't lose your rag and talk to him. Explain the consequences. Involve the school. If it gets out of control tap into local resources such as your community bobby. He can advise or sometimes talk directly to the child. You can contact them through your local police station.
2006-09-26 06:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by daffodil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is an 11 year old in high school? I just don't think that is a good idea. He is going to school with kids who are 4 or more years older than he is. He will grow up too fast. I'd prefer to put him in 6th or 7th grade (where he belongs with other kids his age) and get him extra tutoring outside of school, or put in him a gifted class, so he won't get bored. Have you moved a lot? Try to stay settled awhile so he can make good friends and then he won't skip. He is missing his old school, no doubt, and acting up to get attention.
2006-09-26 04:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's at that age. Just follow through on consequences. He is just trying to fit in and frankly the Jr High years are horrendous for the kids as well as us parents. If you survive Jr. high - life will be a snap - lol. Make sure you have consequences for his actions and follow through on them every single time.
2006-09-26 04:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it crystal clear that if he continues you will be up before the headmaster, and if it continues after that you are liable for a court case ending in a fine of £1,000.
Other than that, you go see the school and see if they can help.
2006-09-26 04:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is 11 and in high school??? thats crazy.... but i think that might be the reason.. he is only 11 and if i remember correctly i was 14 my freshman yr...i believe he feels he has to do whatever to fit in and find kids to befriend...... just talk to him about and ask him what is up??
2006-09-26 04:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by Rebekah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW! in the us you go at 14 15 and on.... well u really gotta just take everything out of his room including his bed well leave the matress but i mean like everything... tell him hes grounded and just give a really harsh punishment.... his new friends seem like a bad influence on him! im 14 and like i hang out with my friends and we do some stupid things but im smart enough to make right desissions.. like not drugs but anyway just take everyhting out and keep him in him room no phone no computer NO NOTHING! it was on doctor phile.... just try it he says it works..i watched it wit my mom
2006-09-26 13:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by why hello there 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
y is ur 11 year old in high school neway?
2006-09-26 04:46:30 · answer #9 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe sit down with his counsler and find something to do.
2006-09-26 06:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by Sondra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋