I am currently in college...graduate in december 2006. My boyfriend already graduated and is working in the electrical union. He makes decent money and they are sending him to school one day a week for free. So he gets paid for 32 hrs a week. He isn't to happy with his job and is considering quitting it. He gets full benfits from his job now...which if we get married and have children it will cover all of us...and if he goes into this private company he wont get anything. There are pros and cons to both jobs. NEW JOB- only 10 mins away from home, company vehicle, works locally in town. STAYING AT OLD JOB-has to drive his own truck, generally 45 minutes away..gas is a killer! He needs to consider our future...so...do you think that he should leave his job and get a new one or should he suck it up for 3 more years and be his own boss and make $30 hr after he is finished with the schooling they are sending him too? please help !
2006-09-26 04:35:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Okay...so I don't have a ring an actual engagement ring...but we have discussed marriage. Does the other 2 rings count for anything ?? We have chosen to wait until after I finish college and get a good job. And he wants to start a family next year...so uhh...yeah I am alittle worried about our future. And he wants to build our own home within the next few years....so theres around 300,000.....i'm not being greedy. I just want my children to grow up better than I did.
2006-09-26 04:52:19 · update #1
My personal opinion is that he would have to do what feels right if he is only going to be miserable where he is, that is not a life that you want to live, 83% of marriages that involve a crummy job or unhappiness at work results in divorce because of fighting
2006-09-26 04:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by hero_del_cielo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he should stay where he is right now just so he can get the free schooling. But also look around and start looking at other jobs that may be better, such as they offer the same benifits if not better ones, and they pay for him to go to school with getting paid for 40 hours. There is nothing bad with just looking for a better job and a better future. But he should definetly go with the better job.
2006-09-26 04:43:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up honey, those benefits are worth more than you think. My 73 year old widowed mother is still only paying $5 per prescription from my Dad's benefits and he has been gone 13 years. And if they are paying for him to go to school, he has a good deal going. Unions protect members. A private company can fire you if they don't like you...not legally, but they can find a reason. It is hard to get fired from a union job.
2006-09-26 04:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by mrslititia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, Hon but until there is a ring on your finger, the only person both of you should be thinking about is yourselves. He's gotta do what's best for him and so do you. I understand wanting to plan your lives together because I want to plan mine with my man too, but I know he's not ready for marriage and I know I need more time too so I plan on taking care of me right now and when the time is right, then we'll discuss things like this. For now, let him go be a man and do what he's gotta do! You tie him down and he'll knaw thru the rope to get away from you.
2006-09-26 04:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should consider the future. That is very responsible. However, I'm not sure I could support my significant other if he was in a job that he hates. I would want him happy. If the new job would make him more happy then I would go with that. Everything else will find a way to work out.
2006-09-26 04:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by Krissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt matter what we think since we're talking about your boyfriend and not you. He wants to be fulfilled in his job, as we all do and its kind of hard to think about whats best for your wife and kids when you dont have a wife or kid(s). I say he needs to do whatever makes him happy. With his skills he will always be eligible for a union job so I say leave him be. If this new job's benefits dont support the future wife and kid...perhaps the wife's job will.
2006-09-26 04:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should stick it out.. if hes making $30 per hour then gas should be no problem and if it his maybe he should get a smaller truck....you need to talk to him and determine wheather haveing children our not is in your future....u might want kids and he might not or visa versa.... if you decide that children are in ur future the n stick with the benefits because it cost a miniumu of $250,000 per birth... so the benefits will come in handy but if u decide u dont want children then take the new job
2006-09-26 04:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by gamepr4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best answer here is what is your current status financially and what is the best alternative back up should one not prevail as expected too.
Go for the best shot first and leave a second choice as a back up.
2006-09-26 04:38:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Will there be a cure including repair to already damaged areas? 2. Do I ever get out of here? 3. Do I get the career I want?
2016-03-27 10:44:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him do what he thinks will make him the happiest instead of being miserable... More like he needs to think about your future huh? More money even though he is unhappy, let him be happy even if it is less pay geez...
2006-09-26 04:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋