My sister died 2 years ago in an accident.she has two kids.After her death my brother inlaw had huge lose in his business and he was bankrupt.Due to all this he is mentally disturbed.he doesn't do any work and he cannot take care of his kids.His family also dont bother about them.now my father take care of them.I want to help them but i live abroad with my husband. when i talk about the kids with my husband he gets angry saying that my first priority is my house .i am spoiling my relation with him by talking too much about my sisters problem. but i am really worried about their future. They are like my kids. but nobody is their to understand my problem.
2006-09-26 04:26:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No offense.... Lady! But, I think your husband feels insecure that you are giving much more importance to your sister's kids which possibly is diverting the attention that your husdband & your immediate family and house needs!
So, I think... Stop talking too much about the issue, though I know its tough!
Try approaching the issue with him indirectly.... Tell him... I need your advice on something!
Then put up the problem with not much of sobby stories, but with mostly facts!
I am sure he would understand!
All the best!
AB
2006-09-26 05:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by arnab.boral 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tragedy indeed. Sad to see people with benevolent intentions like you hitting the wall. Just try to convince hubby that taking care of your sister's kids, wouldn't be at the cost of your concern for your own family. Your own family will always remain your priority. And hope he is convinced. More thoughtfulness from the members of your brother-in-law's family was expected. Anyway, let me just wish you good luck.
2006-09-26 06:38:20 · answer #2 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I feel for you and there are a lot of people out there that haven't been through what you are going through . Some just are not compassionate people. I'll bet most are though, I would Give The Lord a try. He will help you, if you are willing to ask. He will find a way. for you and the family. God bless you for caring so much. I hope your huband will reallize how much you are hurting and be a little more compassionate. God Bless.
2006-09-26 04:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
god has not given power for anybody to see other problems so easily. they need to manufacture their heart for that. you got to be yourself first. dont blame your husband for that. if u r really sincere about children earn money or open babycare centre there. with that u can start managing them. u r also feeling like others. but not taking any action. if r doing good initially u would get opposition. if u have patieance of bhoomata tolerable to all persons with smile and love. those children r goig to help u in later days. only u r feeding nothing else. mother teressa could offer service to millions of persons in the world. why dont u dare to do good action. if u dont show action even though ur concerned does not look convinced to yourself. go ahead take challenge. according to gita whoever help would get max help from the world. common dont expect sympathy from others on the name of those children. today is the day . take them to u . allow the time to pass. god will be with u. any way peole would appreciate. that gives confidence for ur character. ur husband surely help u in future. dont fight. take heart put it into family. god enter there. u wil see many wonders .l
2006-09-26 09:15:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love's never easy
And who knows what's fair
I guess I'm still feeling
What's no longer there
When hearts go to pieces
Love crumbles and falls
Like stones made of memories
From bridges and walls.
Hope tomorrow brings good news
'Cause I'm sure gonna miss you
If I look away now please understand
'Cause my eyes refuse to see
Something I can't believe
The very best part of me comes to an end.
Love's never easy
And who knows what's fair
I guess I'm still feeling
What's no longer there
When hearts go to pieces
Love crumbles and falls
Like stones made of memories
From bridges and walls.
Like stones made of memories
From Bridges and walls.
follow ur heart with ur husbend specialy if u had kids from him , about ur sister kids dont worry god brought thim to this world and god will take care of thim ..just keep asking about thim and follow there needs qos they need at this stage of there life pepole who really cares about thim ..i had before same there setuation when i lost my mother so i know what iam saying ..its enough for thim that u keep asking about thim and let thim feel that they are not alone in this wild world ...
2006-09-26 04:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by tiffany lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to balance your husband's feelings on one side and keep providing love and care to your sister's kids on the other as both are important for you
2006-09-26 04:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by Rockman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is being selfish. He obviously is afraid to share you and your love with anyone. He should be supportive of you, not tell you that your house comes first. Tell him once and for all how you feel. If he cannot understand, then maybe he isn't the right man for you.
2006-09-26 04:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
due to personal ego people cant understand other feelings. also person feel insecurity in his personal life , do not take responssiblity of others this is ur husband problem, be kind to him and make him unerstand calmlly
2006-09-26 05:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one in all you will could enable bypass of the stubbornness to make certain which you 2 to be mutually. you do no longer could agree on each thing (till that could be a deal breaker situation). you in easy terms could appreciate the others persons opinion and conform to disagree.
2016-10-18 00:19:58 · answer #9 · answered by hosford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound like he is worried !!!!!!!!! ABOUT HIMSELF..... It sounds like you will have to make a choice. Not a very nice one. I feel sorry for you if your relationship is good with this guy and you love the kids and he will not budge. Loosing a loved one is not easy good luck
2006-09-26 04:34:09 · answer #10 · answered by rollerbabe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋