LAST YEAR MY BROTHER WAS KILLED IN A MOTORCYCLE ACCIDENT WHILE ON VACATION IN FLORIDA. I WAS LIVING WITH HIM AND HIS GIRLFRIEND AND MY NEPHEW BECAUSE OF FINANCIAL REASONS. I HELPED THEM OUT ONCE UPON A TIME. WHILE STAYING WITH THEM I PAID MY WAY I SLEEP ON THE FLOOR AND I PAY HALF THE RENT AND BILLS. BABYSIT ALL THE TIME. SINCE MY BROTHERS DEATH I STAYED THINKING I WOULD BE HELPING HIS GIRLFRIEND WITH MY NEPHEW AND FINANCIALLY I COULD NOT GET A PLACE. WELL HIS GIRLFRIEND IS VERY ANGRY ALL THE TIME LIKE I AM IN HER WAY. I HAVE BENT OVER BACKWARDS FOR HER AND MY NEPHEW BECAUSE SHE HAS NO FAMILY IN ST LOUIS. WE HAVE GOTTEN INTO FIGHTS BECAUSE SHE WANTS SOMEONE TO FEAR HER. RECENTLY I HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO MOVE INTO A ONE BEDROOM APARTMENT THAT IS HALF OF WHAT I AM PAYING. MY CREDIT WAS NOT THE BEST BUT THIS LADY IS GIVING MY A CHANCE. SO I TOOK THE PLACE MY THING IS I DON'T WANT TO JUST LEAVE HER HI AND DRY. I JUST NEED MY SPACE BECAUSE MY NEPHEW IS A BRAT AND SHE HAS BECOME A *****!!
2006-09-26 04:25:59 · 11 answers · asked by muggy1970 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i would get my stuff out of her place while shes gone just to make sure you do get your things then when she comes home tell her thanks for letin you stay whatever comes to mind tell her you need your own privacy an want to start your own life offer to keep your nephew once a week or something that fits your schedule shell get over it.. i understand your situation my sister got divorced an had a 6 month old son i live in a 3 bedroom house i own me an my husband have our room my son had his room we rearranged turned the computer room into a bedroom an got her a full sized bed an the bay a playpin we payed for everything a year in a half later she made no attempt to get a job start her life take care of herself anything i felt like i had 3 kids an a husband finally i MADE her go get food stamps an medicaid an wic on the baby an helped her get houseing she was none to happy at the least try kickin your sister out its awful but i had to we wanted our house an privacy back an financally we had been drained we couldnt do it anymore but we did it shes out she got over it an my nephew wants to live with me but we tell him he can only stay with me-me once a week he has to spend time with mommy an daddy an granparents not just me-me an after awhile it worked so good luck hope this helps an i wish youu all the best
2006-09-26 04:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by misty w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if she is hurting from her loss and if your nephew is a brat, can't you get him to calm down ??? I'm sure she'll be pissed if you move out, so if you want to keep a relationship going, you will have to probably stay there and help out, or maybe you can explain to her that you need to be on your own.
2006-09-26 05:26:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you feel like she needs her space and that you are grateful that she let you stay with her for so long. That way she will have no reason to get mad at you for leaving. Just politely thank her (even if you don't mean it) then leave quietly and live your own life. Life is too short to be living under those conditions.
2006-09-26 04:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
actual the full reason you nonetheless sense for him is through fact which you spot alot of your self in him. such as you mentioned youve broken hearts and on no account had a loss of interest. the certainty that he treats you like that drives you loopy through fact no has ever omitted you... you have been the only doing the ignoring. And on a similar time as you recognize its incorrect that he did all that shyt to you ...you nonetheless understand that deep down he needs to be scared for. He in all probability trys to push you away through fact which you are the 1st guy or woman who actual cared approximately him and in a vogue it in all probability scares him which you incredibly want to be with him through fact which you have been by using plenty in the previous why might you want him out of absolutely everyone (or a minimum of thats what he thinks) now this might seem difficult to do yet while he calls do not answer purely enable the telephone ring and ring the certainty which you arent chasing him and giving in to him willpersistent him loopy and on a similar time you get the satisfaction of being chased such as you used to. Its making you chuffed on a similar time as making him depressing that's extra then what he merits after the way he dealt with you. nicely desire this helps sturdy success sister.
2016-12-15 14:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just let her know that you need to move on, that your brother is gone and you need to become yourself again. That you stayed your time and you need to go. I am sure she will understand. Good Luck with the new place! You will love it
2006-09-26 04:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by kirsten215 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for letting you stay and that you are grateful but it's time to move out since your brother is no longer around.
I am sorry for your brother and if you can do something for your nephew, please do. Be a part of his life.
2006-09-26 07:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by tangerine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say,, Thanks for letting me stay here and get on my feet,, people like you are a god sent,,, and leave,
sorry to hear about your brother,, Lose is a hard thing to cope with ,,
god be with you
2006-09-26 04:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell it is better for all of you if you move out. You've tried to help but it's not appreciated so onward you go. Don't apologize for anything and just move out.
2006-09-26 04:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move out but keep in touch..it's ur right.
good luck and sorry for ur bro's loss
2006-09-26 04:30:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what is right for you. If she cannot realise that, then that is her problem. She mistreats you anyhow, so why sweat it?
2006-09-26 04:28:31 · answer #10 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋