I am 18 years old husband he is 21 and we got married after 2 months of knowing dating each other in vegas as a joke. And due to a lot of drinking that same day have a baby on the way. We have been married for month still have not told our parents and we had our first big fight recently. I have to keep fighting the urge not to throw a fit and cry?Also sometimes my husband speaks to me as if i were a child?Calls me "kid"! He says i am his baby girl and he wants to take care of me and has strong feelings for me still and wants to take care of me and his child. He is an italian guy so aparantley he has always wanted to be a father eventually though he admits this is way ahead of schedule. He wants to stay married and know wants to attend my doctors appointments. He almost seems excited?I am afraid he is going to chang his mind? Do i believe him?
2006-09-26 04:11:53 · 18 answers · asked by Keri O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He graduates from college next year and i am just starting.
2006-09-26 04:13:43 · update #1
I dont have a reason not to trust him but i feel weird like i dont really know him.
2006-09-26 04:19:15 · update #2
Can't say...at least he is saying and doing the right things. Personally, I'd go ahead and tell everyone that we're married if I were you...and then go ahead and move in together.
Oh, and just for the record...the baby on the way is not "due to a lot of drinking".
Good luck...
2006-09-26 04:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, i'm not here to criticise what's already happened so won't even get into the whol married in vegas thing. what i do feel i ned to say is that all couples have fights.. they ALL do, no matter how perfect they appear on the outside.
if you don't trust him (which it seems like) then maybe you sould really think about taelling your parents everything. if ervything turns out bad you can always go live with them, i'm sure they'll help you take care of the baby and then you can also attend college during the day which (i don't know the guy but) might be something he wouldn't want you to do. many guys like their girls to depend on them soo much that they dont want them educated or working so that they're so dependent on them that the girls can't/find it hard to leave. I hope your siuaion isn''t that bad. anyway good luck and i'm sure you'll be a wonderful mother just make sure you do what YOU want and nobody else!!
Take care ;-)
2006-09-26 11:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by blithe_vow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You both sound waaaay too young and immature to be A) married and B) having a child together. It sounds like your secret husband treats you like crap (yes, even if he calls you babygirl) and that you are questioning everything here. Understandable, given the loss of control in your life. Honestly, you really need to focus on this child that you're carrying. Do you have a decent relationship with your parents or a sibling or anyone besides this man who treats you so poorly? By the way, just because he's Italian has nothing to do with someone wanting to or being a good father. If he fed you that line and you believe it, I'm truly worried for you.
Please try to talk to someone who loves you and who can help you make a decision. I say that because I thing Yahoo answers is a crappy place to get real advice about such a serious situation regarding two young adults and an unplanned marriage/pregnancy. People will be harsh and you really need some support from someone who loves you...besides Mr. Italian.
Okay, I just looked at your past questions (based on comments from the previous people on this question). Are you for real? Because I really hate spending my time honestly trying to help someone who is just messing with everyone here. It's upsetting...there's already enough a**holes on this site, I like to try to answer questions that are legit. Makes me angry. But whatever.
2006-09-26 11:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should belive him. For everything that has happened and he still wants to be with you and wants to take care of his "baby girl" (which BTW is what my husband has always called me and I am only 1 yr younger than him) means that he is in it for the long haul. Yes it will be difficult. If you can you need to go to couples therapy. You didn't get to know each other very well before getting married but that doesn't mean that your marriage is doomed. Go on to school and get your education. You can do it and be a mother at the same time. Good luck and take a deep breath. You have alot you need to deal with. And you might as well tell your parents...If you are old enough to get married without their permission you are old enough to deal with what they have to say.
2006-09-26 11:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isnt giving you any signs that he isnt telling the truth then I would be asking. Im concerned though, are you just cautious or is there a reason to think that he is being dishonest?
Maybe deep down you yourself are scared at how fast all this came about. Your young but compromise and comunication to me is the most important thing in a marriage. Good luck.
2006-09-26 11:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by rybo510 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please stop posting your ignorant a** questions. This is like your 20th damn question on the same subject! Get the Hell off of the computer and get a life. Maybe you should have been on the computer the night you decided to bring an innocent life into your dysfunctional a** world. Get your stupid immature a** off of Yahoo. This is a place for people who have some kind of intelligence. And you seem to have nothing! Next time close your nasty a** legs or wrap it up b*tch!
2006-09-26 11:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He is an italian guy so aparantley he has always wanted to be a father " hows that apparent?
You know that you rushed into this, theres no telling whats going to happend between you two, just keep the hope alive and good luck!
2006-09-26 11:16:06 · answer #7 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married so young decreases your chances of staying married significantly, specially the impulsive and secretive marriage like yours is very hard to succeed. But you must both working on it, specially that you are expecting baby. Get marriage consulting, get both set of parents involved, be kind to each other and enjoy, that you are young and in love. Good luck
2006-09-26 11:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a tough road ahead. My only advise, coming from a failed marriage and now a GREAT one...
Tell HIM how you feel, not us. Tell him to open up to you. When he speaks, you believe him until his actions tell you different. Just like he would with you. When his actions say different, believe his ACTIONS over any promises.
Good luck.
btw...my wife and I have arguments now...its GREAT! We actually talk after and figure out what went wrong and how to fix that for later...always growing.
2006-09-26 11:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by RJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only Time will tell!! Trust is earned down the road.
Do keep him as involved in the baby as possible!!!
Good Luck!
2006-09-26 11:20:23 · answer #10 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋