2006-09-26 04:02:28 · 30 answers · asked by magai 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why does there have to be a 'hard battle'? And why do you use the word 'against'? Why can't you learn to at least like and respect her? Maybe then she will like you. Don't be bitter like some people who answered this. Try calling her and inviting her out to lunch or maybe ask her to go to a movie with you. If you love your husband then try, try, try! I don't understand why the word inlaw has to be associated with the word enemy. Things could be so much better if both sides would try. I love my mother-inlaw. After all, she gave me my husband.
2006-09-26 09:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the same situation that thousands of Indian newly weds are. Be patient allow his mother do things for him - understand that it is difficult for her to stop being close to her son. Let her and tell how much you appreciate her attention. With the sister-in- law make friends with her do not be aloof. Change your attitude and you will observe they will respond. With the husband at an appropriate time tell him how hurt you get when he derides you ask him to suggest how you could improve.
Remember you are the outsider and you have to adjust a bit and you will find that the boys family will repond positively, the trouble actually starts when people start comparisions with their own families. Go ahead and Good Luck
2006-09-27 02:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by Rahul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a battle you can not win. I have learned that not seeing them often is the best solution and the times I do see them, I just go with the flow. I try to anticipate what she wants and I give it. As for unsolicited advise, it goes in one ear and out the other unless it is something I can use. For disagreements, I let my partner handle them. It is good when you have a husband who understands wrong from right whether it is his mom or not and since this is her son, she will communicate (note that I did not say listen) and will at least be informed of what was wrong with the situation.
2006-09-26 11:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by Georgina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some mother in law thinks that they are the best in the world due to this ego they never gives proper respect to their daughter in law.their daughter can wear jeans but daughter in law not, they can make mistakes but daughter in law not.why?
2014-05-31 05:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by anil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having the same problem and my to be husband doesn't care what his mother sayd anymore it's your husbands and your life not hers. And yes I know that some mother-in-laws are a pain in the as*. But if your in love he's worth it. Just stop talking to her so she can't do anything. Don't grow up as some people have writen when they may not understand whats going on.
2006-09-26 11:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by reba s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Magai, some people will never get along, others will, fact of life sorry....
Fortunately my wife and mother are more friendly than some. Mind you a lot has to do with the in-law to start with and the first impression. NEVER LIE is a good way to start.
2006-09-26 11:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by fungal.style 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should adjust with your ma-in-law and live together. Being a lady, u should adjust and cooperate. It may take some time, but you remain coooool and will win in a loving way.
2006-09-26 11:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by anil m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you expect an answer if you don't clarify what this 'hard battle' is all about? Saas bahu relationship in Indian households are mostly sour. Try adjusting and convincing her to see your way. If she isn't incurable, that is.
2006-09-26 13:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yu never!
Its cant be a battle hard/soft. She is mother and if yu respect her properly im sure yu will WIN her heart.
2006-09-26 11:12:07 · answer #9 · answered by Rohit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to battle your mother in law when it would cause problems between you and your husband. it is HIS mother after all. don't think for a moment that blood isn't thicker than water.
2006-09-26 11:04:26 · answer #10 · answered by tampico 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋